December 27, 2021
Tiptoe through the ‘two-lips’ be they yours or when encountering another’s. If the emotional turbulence inside your consciousness makes it very hard for you to remain positive, connect and communicate effectively, positively and harmoniously with others, it’s time for a change! In effect you are crippled and clouded by your own emotion. Most experience this, sometimes many times a day, but refuse to see that we cripple ourselves, preferring to blame the other person. That may be why we can stay crippled for a long time, and not even realize it.
If you’re weak in saying positive words daily, use positive words deliberately throughout the day as a ‘word exercise’. We need more than physical exercise. Use thought and verbal exercise. They work even if you have to ‘fake it ’til you make it’. Avoid negativity, or if that’s not always easy to do, turn others words into a positive response … and that may be skillful silence. Always, where possible, use ‘skillful means’. Avoid the trap of others negativity by finding the best way to respond positively. Tiptoe through the ‘two-lips’ below your nose, and the others ’two-lips’ even if you have to make it a game of ‘faking it til you make it’.
Always have a ‘sense of light humor’ ready! There are some among us that literally have little or no sense of accepting any humor. I have had a friend for 30 years who is a veteran Executive Hollywood Producer, son of a NY Godfather as well as from a wealthy ‘broken’ family, but inspite of that, and who well may be the ‘most interesting man in the world’, it’s a challenge to dialog. Strangely he has the humor of an angry lion carrying a ‘machine gun’. At times he initiates negative verbal rhetoric that makes it a near impossible challenge to keep ‘sweet’. He, to anyone who knows him well, will experience him as a ‘behemoth monster’ on frequent occasion. One slip of lips that you’re offended by his remarks inevitably results in accusing anyone listening to him to be pummeled with toxic backlash (he’s a good therapy exercise though to find ways to creatively turn the conversation around to a smooth dialog, which happens sometimes, and he’s working at it).
This is a world now where it is best to examine yourself for negativity or being around it, and step outside the self-reinforcing echo chamber to ‘reset’ old ingrained ways of defensiveness that deprecates others, or more likely you as the victim of these people. Find ways to avoid them or close the ‘gap’ in communication vs one way non communication into to a smooth dialog. Accept the little voice inside you as the ‘mysterious existence controller’ urging you to let go and let god in!
Arhata~
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