May 30, 2013
Into-me-I-see and into-You-I-see. Remove the log or log jam from your own eye before pointing out the speck in someone else’s! Creating deep intimacy in another requires being in deep intimacy with yourself. To see beyond the mountains of muddy waters of your past is near impossible when seeking another to share life’s possibilities with. Most have their natural clarity jammed up with not only unresolved issues but the identification with those issues as being part of them. ‘Smooth’ is the goal to a refined self that is ready for a compatible fit with another of the same clarity.
It’s normal for those with issues of the past blocking the opening to love’s depths to not even be aware enough of the dilemma to do anything about it, but blame the other for difficulties. Imagine if both are in the same state of being and shooting ‘blame arrows’ at the other!? Welcome to the old normal generation after generation with little or no improvement. The seed of ‘intimacy impropriety’ is passed on both genetically as well as being reinforced by early experiences in a young developing mind. Millenniums ago the earth likely had less people than many cities do today, and this ‘intimacy fear’ dilemma was passed on to a small amount. As the population has doubled in the last few decades, that ‘rejection trait of deep love’ has spread to the new billions.
What do you do with the fear of intimacy to yourself as well as another? Why just work around it with the inevitable ‘shrapnel’ that explodes and reoccurs throughout life? Doing nothing about it actually causes behaviors that manifest detrimental to all forms of good health. To be in harmony with life is best to begin with yourself, and those closest particularly a mate.
Love without passion from the being is wonderful but is like the sunshine on a clear day of a cold winter, nice but not the same as the same day in the warm sunshine. To be alone, and find everyday upon waking to be exciting to be alive regardless of what the day may bring is a blessing of self love. That excitement transfers both to the love in ones life, and others wherever they may be. Giving love is reciprocated in like by the openness to receive from another, and from the universe. Where there is fear as one approaches love, it’s the moment to walk into that fear, and see it convert into forms of love’s splendors and ‘mutual intimacies’.
Civilizing the Male
May 24, 2013
There have been no civilizations on Earth dominated by males! There have been no civilizations on Earth with a female influence other than ‘capitulation’ to male dominance. I read the other day a list of the ten top civilizations. Among them were the Spartans, Romans, Nazi’s, Aztecs, Apache’s, Soviet Union, etc. All should have been regarded as examples of male thuggery, and lower civilizations or ‘gangs’, cults, or mostly disorganized chaos! All purported civilizations that seemed to have lasted a few short years, were either misnomers or more that likely ‘wore a mask of deception’ waiting to implode, and eliminate any such perspective.
Conscious males have high standards of outer and inner conduct of being. They are not just of a higher intellect to dominate all others, but combine the heart energy with an open, sensitive mind and being in all matters with the welfare of all human beings as a top priority. The new male lets go of the past civilizations, and is dedicated to creating a path of harmonious living for all. The new male reaches for high inner intelligence regardless of what happened in his past earlier years. He is an inner athlete seeking a ‘zone’ of activity that represents what he’d like for all the world to see.
The new woman drops the old man that has represented negativity, controlling, and violence down through history. The new woman opens her heart and being totally while avoiding the traps of dependency that so shackled women in general over time. Unnecessary insecurity is no longer needed. The woman of the 21st century and beyond examines herself for the habits of clinging to inherited behaviors that stereotype her for male stereotyping going back to primitive times. The future can’t be created by clinging to the non open, discerning past.
The habit of ‘ladies first’ and opening the door for the female needs to be extended in all ways to value everyone as ‘relevant’ enough to give the highest acknowledgement of being ‘special to’ in all acts. Cultures over the years have used ‘rites of passage’ for young males of 12 or 13 to show their manhood. Garbage! Better to have a woman administer ‘rites of passage’ in how to respect and love their fellow people of all ages, and in particular females.
All over the world are wars just finished, going on, planned, unplanned, and always by men, and the male leader’s quest for money, power, and sex. Freedom and ‘country’ are just ‘lip service’ to inspire child-adult’s of 18-22 to do the dirty work. Males need to be reprogrammed for learning sensitivity, compassion, and the right use of love and meditation. Of course, then no one will want to fight! Hmmm?! Not a bad idea!
Compassion Can Be Dumb
May 26, 2013
‘Trust but verify’ is a popular slogan meant as a ‘fact check’ in case of error. In an uncertain world with people who are themselves ‘uncertain’, blind faith just doesn’t suffice. Transparency in ‘truths’ are open to inspection or questioning particularly if the consequences of being wrong justifies a closer affirmation. The word ‘compassion’ is to be consciously sympathetic usually with an emotional connection of anothers suffering or distress with a desire to alleviate it. The key word is ‘consciously’ meaning to assess if the act of compassion has a strong possibility of collateral damage that could effect you and possibly others.
Compassion can have ‘karmic’ effects bringing more happiness, less stress, more reciprocity and some say, ‘it slows down the aging process’! To have empathy for anothers situation is to put yourself in their shoes ….and, maybe walk a mile in them. Compassion is the way of the Buddhists. People who are of the compassionate type actually have a ‘catalytic’ effect on those around them, or in other words it’s an invisible source of energy that spreads itself to those open to it even ever so slightly. In a way, compassion is like a drug such as marijuana that turns you on with its vital force.
However, like all things, there are other perspectives. One recent example involves one of the most compassionate and generous nations, Sweden. Sweden is known as a peaceful, tolerant and compassionate country over the decades and longer. Escapees from the Middle East violence and warring are fleeing to various countries in Europe. Word has gotten out that Sweden, up until now, has been the most receptive, and with government ‘hand outs’. Problem is the vast majority of escapees are male, and ‘high testosterone, abused, males who are teenagers and early 20’s. These males are ‘culturally deprived’ and unaware of other more sophisticated cultures. In addition, there is a lack of employment opportunities, thus a lot of time on their hands, little money, and sexually frustrated. Riots and raping by this collective are changing the face of Sweden.
Compassion is wonderful with common sense, discernment, and staying out of harms way. An extreme example of wrong compassion is to take a wild animal as a pet and expect loving ways will produce ‘loving responses’! There is a saying of ‘using tough love’ perhaps for unruly children. Tough compassion focused on keeping decisions toward others balanced for harmony of the greater good, must always be a top priority for your welfare and others. It’s best to not be in the situation having one unruly person or a small cadre of undisciplined humans with no direction. The heart of compassion must be balanced with discerning awareness in keeping with common sense and peace ‘in the house’.
Control of the Stupid
May 21, 2013
Most of the educated are stupid! Some of the uneducated are intelligent! No one needs to chew bubble gum to be stupid. ‘Stupid’ comes is many varieties! Ask the ‘stupid’ if they are open minded, and they will, of course say yes! People are taught to be stupid, and are quite willing to fill their brain with stupidities. ‘Stupid’ is often the easier path in life causing many accidents as people rush to affirm their ‘disease’ creating all kinds of confusement particularly when some start questioning their path and begin reversing against the flow.
Society needs stupid people! Why? Because they are manageable. Politicians and religion salesmen want ‘stupid people’ who don’t keep an open mind to inquire what’s behind their words – and of course, they deny culpability. It’s not easy for leaders of the sheeple to manipulate and dominate those who are free in their minds. It’s in the interest of those who control to protect their ‘turf’, and often it enters into greed and lack of compassion toward those who support them. Care and compassion for the well being of those that you have control over eliminates ‘stupidity’ on the part of both sides.
The intelligent person is rebellious and insists on thinking for himself. Intelligence is adverse to succumbing to control that does not meet the standards of common sense and sensitivity. The intelligent person is not stuck on unquestioned tradition, or on worshipping all ancient rhetoric. The intelligent person wants to live in the ‘now’ with an eye on the open future. The way they live in the moment paves the way for a conscious future.
The foolish are like lemmings following each other into the sea and drowning. The ‘foolish’ live in fear beyond the practical fears. The foolish follows beliefs or dogma, traditions, unquestioned authority, negative habits that they refuse to change, the same ole, same ole, etc.
Intelligence is a phenomenon beyond the intellect of the head. Meditation is a device to release intelligence. The more meditative you become, the more intelligent. Intellectual is part of ‘stupid’ and seeks comfort. The word ‘intelligence’ is often misused to identify the ‘smart’ who wallow in undeveloped emotions, and are not well in touch with their beings center. To be intelligent means to live your life from the highest consciousness and spirit in a total let go. Why be an imitator of a mob or group that frowns on open questioning? Follow the empty path in life that ‘you’ choose free of anyone else’s path. Why take the superhighway of the drones or sheeple? Bliss and happiness are there on your own path of passion. You control your path in a creative life that rings in your heart! That’s the best kind of ‘control’!
Mask of the Phantom
May 20, 2013
The purpose of being on a ‘spiritual journey’ can be compared to taking you like an astronaut out into the stars where the earth is but another of the small stars. Disengaging from the many, many ‘fragments’ that is seen as ‘you’ is to begin seeing that you have been a stranger to the ‘real you’. On one hand, depending on how identified with what you and others see as you, the real inside can be revealed quite simply. ‘The You’ is always accessible but usually is disguised as a phantom hidden in plain sight!
People often look like what they think they are, as well as how they think and become attached to how others see them. In other words, people think they see through your mask, but from through their own mask to really get things all mixed up! People even wear clothes that indicate who they think they are. Rare is the person who is naked, or bares their real self to show who they are, and anyway those ‘majority’, unconsciously pretending to be who they are not, are unlikely to see how another is close up, or intimately. What is needed is a ‘human vacuum cleaner’ for the mind’s negative, stored junk to clear it out.
Unless one has a knack for seeing beyond how people present themselves, people are often not who they seem to be. Marriage and couplings are filled with people not really seeing who each other is, as each puts on a mask of acting who they are later seen as ‘muddled’ and sometimes, the exact opposite. Marriage can be a perfect opportunity to be in an enchanting life, or as most, two frogs stuck together who are not likely to hammer out the bad choice of mistaken self identity that contributed to chaining themselves up with the same on the other side. A ‘relationshit’ with oneself, likely attracts the same, and even if lucky enough to find a ‘high conscious partner’, the lower of the two dominates the relationship.
Love blossoms when uncovering the mask to see that which eludes one as the phantom, or the real, perfect self. Masks to cover the real, pure, sensitive you, can be necessary relative to the circumstances, but the best use is in the most positive manner. Always, the authentic you, without self criticism, shines through at least marginally to even the most judgmental of people, and in full light to those of ‘self love’. Meditation and self love are the guaranteed unveilers of who you really are. Knowing who you really are is the unlocked door to the next dimension.
May 18, 2013
Roaming males are countered by roaming females for gratuity. Philandering for love in the wrong places, and with wrong people is frowned upon by most righteous religious organizations, particularly the Abrahamic religions of Judaism, Islam, and Christianity. Some even suggest there is a place in eternal hell for these folks looking for love in the most mysterious, exciting of places! Certainly there is questionable merit in one who pledges love to one and slips into bed with another on the sly!
“In the 21st century, criminal laws against adultery have become very controversial, with international organizations calling for their abolition, especially in the light of several high profile stoning cases that have recently occurred in certain countries. Opponents of these laws cite the fact that adultery laws are a major contributor to discrimination and violence against women, as they are enforced selectively mostly against women; that they prevent women from reporting rape and sexual violence; and that they maintain social norms which justify violent crimes committed against women by husbands, families and communities.”
Many ancient laws or commandments are either not appropriate in today’s world or are too ‘cut and dry’ to not cover what they really mean. The narrow minded would say, ‘adultery is adultery’ without really understanding what they are believing. Consensual sex between adults should never be at anyone else’s expense. Creating emotional trauma in another, even if potential or with an act that is hidden, is injurious and contemptible. Religion has little final word about it’s consequences even though ‘controllers of religion’ say they or god does. A judgment by another can be just as hurtful.
It is love’s responsibility to not be ‘partial’ as well as not be non mindful or non heartfelt of a mutual commitment to share each others being and heart. Partial love and a loose commitment to agreements and compassion for each other is a breach of common sense and the cherishing of love. Love shared is to always carry the other’s mind and heart in whatever you do.
Couple love has many manifestations. Adultery is a catch all, guilt driven, hell fire, eternal damnation, judgmental word. First of all, it takes at least four to push the bounds of love and agreement – husband, wife, the ‘us’ that they make, and the ‘outsider’ who benefited. Adultery is not clearly defined. What is it when a partnership agrees to love others? There are no succinct definitions. Love at it’s peaks is compassionate, and empathetic for all combined with full disclosure. Love between two committed to monogamy is but one manifestation of love. Love stays in the heart for all it touches! Love never changes it’s mind!
May 16, 2013
The title may sound like a scary idea but it’s just a very natural method that enables two people to experience the deepest love. Love has no limits with a couple in personal love. On the down side, most couples begin moving away from the ‘deepening’ direction into some form of ‘chaotic love’. Bumpy love seems to be the world standard, and sometimes ‘over the cliff’. Love has many levels, colors, and expressions. Falling in love and falling out of love are two sides of the same coin. Love can turn in many degrees of manifestation from dark and barely sustaining to a surreal self perpetuating zone of blissful ecstasy. That is ‘rising in love’!
Love is a magnificent privilege to experience the peaks of life. Why miss it? Only two paths to touch the ‘superconsciousness’, meditation or love paths. The last half century or so is an opportunity to take either path for millions like never before. This is due to the fact that millions are not just in the survival mode, but with infinite choices, and the time to rocket above the mundane into the blissful state of embedded love beyond the concept of ‘love with shrapnel’, or that ‘comes and goes conditional love’.
Love is a seed in everyone. Nurture love and it grows. Don’t, and it struggles. Your choice. Love, or better put, ‘beyond love’ as the rare, blessed ones know it, is a phenomenon that’s a choice-less choice beyond words that gives birth to an eternal flame within. Conditions need to be unconditional. You must let the other being inside as part of you while still having your identity, and the other needs to do the same with you. In extremely rare cases, it happens naturally, while a small percentage, with the passion to do so, can communicate in ‘dialog’ to assist each other grow into the space of a conscious merging. Why this? It’s natural for humans to want to reach the internal high spirit. Unfortunately, most ignore the journey, or use some stimulant (even sex) to reach that ‘nirvana’.
Two natural and ready partners need no instructions. The small percent of others who hold the thought of being in a pure love state or ‘beyond love’, need some of these characteristics: feeling of safety or securedness; no fears particularly of abandonment or non acceptance; relaxedness; letting go of everything, or better said detached from all; self love; etc.
There is freedom within love! Go deep and unconditionally. Let go of the idea of relationships in a box. Be creatively positive, and let love in as deep as possible – you’ll know the ongoing bliss when that happens!
No doubt there were a lot of good intentions in their early years by over 1/2 million young citizens in the US to ‘spread the good news of Jesus’. Some of those remain ‘proselytizing’ for decades, and of course there are over a million who also did, but have gone on the long unknown road to …? Who knows? There is a famous proverb that was left out of the bible (?) – ‘The road to hell is paved with good intentions’, but when occassionally acted upon have less than positive results compared to better alternatives.
At 17 years old, I gave it a thought for a few moments to attend a ‘bible factory’ for to learn the trade. Problem that came up in my mind is that I like to be honest and transparent with the freedom to explore what I have an urge to experience. Giving up too much ‘freedom’ for what I was suspicious about anyway, lost out to ‘always following freedom and truths’.
Religion kills unbridled creativity but for that which edifies the creator in the sky and supports the ‘holy book puppeteer’ speaking to all the mickey and minnie mouse’s in the pews once a week. Certainly, the master of the church or temple will stumble upon ways to help people, but so do many other organizations that exist or could be invented. Boring or bored to tears is appropriate to describe houses of religion. Those not bored are so programmed and fearful that they hanker for information stimulating their drone behavior.
In today’s world of more and better information than that of the past, no religion salesman exists who isn’t aware of all the religion characters being there for the story as archetypes that people can resonate with, and yet all but rare ones stand up on their laurels, and feed the naive minions both good information, but filled with falsities. No preacher is going to suggest people meditate because if they are intelligent, they would know that meditation detaches people from programming, makes them question, drops fears of everlasting hell, negates the necessity to hear scripture, opens up their heart to know themselves, and on and on.
The creative alternatives to unleash all the merits of love and awareness negate the need to listen to boring scripture. Of course, a small portion of what is in ‘holy books’ is sound information that many spiritual type folks already know, or can be found in thousands of books that address today’s world issues. Any one who focuses on awareness with discernment and common sense is a church, temple, or mosque unto themselves with no need to support a middleman! Get up, let go, and enjoy life!
May 14, 2013
I meet many people. They are all nice for the most part. I have compassion for people who have a variety of disabilities including the ‘parrot disability’. Many of these ‘parrots’ say they pray for me. I suspect that’s more religion drone talk. The ‘Christian Taliban religion’ (which in this country is millions of conservative type Jesus followers), are sheeple who have a parrot’s memory for quoting scripture. Tell them that they cannot say anything that is not their original thinking, and they begin quoting or ‘scripture babbling’! Trying to climb Mt. Everest might be more possible than to have a conversation free of ‘scripture babble’!
There is a strong theory that the more you pay attention to a madman, the more it will fuel his condition. In a sense, these scripture babblers are ‘mad’. Clearly there is a mental neurosis, which needs to be fed to propagate more gobbledegook from holy books, be they Muslim, Christian, Hindu, or whatever. In Japan, I have read they take these religion addicts to the Zen monastery. What’s done there is very unique. No analyzing, questioning, or diagnosing happens. they put him in an isolated room far away from the monastery sitting him in a far corner.
In that isolated room, no one ever talks to him or shows any attention other that feeding him daily. Indifference is the method as a key technique. They have thrived on the attention of others before who listen to them. After several weeks of this the babbler, who has remained with himself, and no reading or stimulation, begins to know themselves. The tension and all the scripture mumbo jumbo dissipates to where they may actually start to think openly on their own.
You have to wonder when these sheeple make love if they quote scripture, or throw it out the window, and substitute what they call ‘profanity’? No man or woman of wisdom really wants to be quoted, or for that matter remembers what they said that was quoted. The average talkative person says billions if not trillions of words in his life time, and each is reflective of the time, moment, and mood in which they were said. To think someone many centuries ago sat there writing down and taking notes on what some man of religion said is completely absurd. We of course have a paper and pencil issue!
Love cannot be transmitted in words to fit in the puzzle of what was experienced and meant. Those with a shallow experience of love will read one thing, and others varying with the intensity. Scripture babblers likely don’t come to the depths of love or meditation to see that all quoting is nonsense, and the exercise of children in school. Awareness is godly and needs no words to experience. Love needs no scripture. All needed scriptures are in the heart not in an ancient book of ancient man.