Wives & Lives

Wives & Lives
August 8, 2014
Today the husband can be the wife, and the wife the husband! With gay couples, usually one is the wife and the other the husband. This is the age of the iconoclast where the old roles and paradigms of thousands of years ago are being let go of. All icons, prejudices, standards, religions, bigotry, illusions, etc., are being challenged faster than people are collectively adapting. Technology and ideas are challenging old ways of living even of a few short years ago. The human mind is still embedded in the last century, or past centuries. The female has suffered more unnecessary abuse throughout history such that they unknowingly are imprinted with conditionings that often no longer work.
Question all aspects of oneself. Life on earth is a school for evolvement of the human spirit and the collective consciousness. For thousands of years and more, it was ‘pre school’ for humans,  then came primary grades, where billions are still struggling in today. Inventions and spiraling technology have catapulted earth into the ‘university level’ for tens of millions. The challenge requires almost ‘instant evolvement’, or you are left in prior  centuries. Until recently, the average being on the planet didn’t even have toilet paper, half may still not!
Women were baby machines, and slaves to a man to cook, clean, raise kids, and be a sex recipient. Still that ‘life style’ consumes most females today, sadly. In growing areas of the planet, women are in a place for freedoms that never existed before, usually though, it requires their choice to ‘break out’ of old conditioning, stereotypes, and all roadblocks to personal evolving into an enlightened spirit. The moment is unlike any ever for everyone to become more than a wife, husband, or any repeat stereotype of thousands of years of broken lives.
The most important opportunity to enrich this incredible time now is to make ‘love’ without a doubt, your number one priority. Whether it be through ‘self examination’ in conjunction with forms of meditation and it’s breathing methods, or through the love path with another, love fills your being with life’s peak energies creating an inner freedom of bliss, joy, and well being otherwise impossible.
Choosing the ‘path of love’ with another, there’s a very high likelihood that when you see who you love in the highest light, a vibration will happen between you that will cause your love to see the way your beloved wants to see you too! When two become ‘one’ in heart, mind, and spirit,  both will feel the greatest freedom possible while each blossoms into a full individual. Always see the twilight in the road up ahead!
Arhata

 

Old Woman in a Shoe

Old Woman in the Shoe

 August 5, 2014
One thing that make Jews different than all religions is the popularity of telling all from childhood to ‘question, question, question’! This morning as I looked out my kitchen window into the fog, were two 3 month old baby deer very independent of each other just lying down staring off into space. Most animals have little if any discernable communication between them. Strangely, most humans use less than 10% of their capacity to communicate with each other. This weekend a couple at my free speech display let their 24 year old beautiful white parrot sit on my hand. Not only did it have a lot to say, but when I stuck my tongue out at it, it said, ‘I don’t like that’!
A popular English nursery rhyme dating back to the 18th century is, ‘There was an old woman who lived in a shoe’. There are many interpretations of what the verses mean. From my point of view, the title is particularly relative to people today who live in a ‘box’ of yesterday filled with ‘do’s and don’ts that become their lifestyle with little variation up ’til death. Many wear the same ole shoe or mindset that they took from their childhood with few adapting variations as what ‘defines them’.
Like the little deer, that munch grass and greens while staring ahead, most have nothing to talk about  other than the mundane. Fear of stepping outside of the ‘old shoe’ to inquire about who they really are beyond the ‘facade’ that they call themselves is a ‘no go to zone’, even if it comes up in conversation. Today is the age of ‘everything’ especially communication of knowing ourselves, and paying attention to what’s going on in the world. Billions are trapped asleep in their old shoe,  with a few 10’s of millions who are free by ever expanding their minds and hearts.
Before anything can happen in your evolution, you need to sit in the self where you will begin to feel an energy you never felt before. Why be absorbed in your melodramas? Sit relaxed in the seat of your awareness, breathing slowly, and beginning to feel the energy spirit come up from within. Hang out with ‘self’ rather than all the inner disturbances. Just stop being involved with loneliness, depression, meaningless distractions, bad habits, negativity, etc.  Awareness releases the shrapnel of the mind. A sense of freedom coming in awareness will cancel inner conflicts, and allow you to just watch inner disturbances. The inner flow is a sense of bliss where you will walk in the world rather that the riff raff of the world walking within you.
‘’It may sound odd, but the fastest way to get to a new-and-improved situation is to make peace with your current situation. By making lists of the most positive aspects you can find about your current situation, you then release your resistance to the improvements that are waiting for you. But if you rail against the injustices of your current situation, you hold yourself in vibrational alignment with what YOU DO NOT WANT, and you cannot then move in the direction of improvement. It defies Law.’’
Deep, relaxed breathing brings awareness bringing up love enveloping your whole being!
Arhata

Fear of Friendships

Fear of Friendships

August 1, 2014
At first glance of the title, most would jump to the conclusion that it’s impossible! Nothing could be further from the truth! People fear ‘friendliness’. Walk down the street and try to be friendly, or in a supermarket, unless you have a knack for friendliness, even you fail at that, let alone the stranger who you’re being friendly to. Facebook on the internet allows you to be friends with infinite numbers of people just by clicking on the ‘request’, then very little if anything happens after that! People have gotten into the habit making potential friendships into remote acquaintances that can be forgotten in days.
Females in particular fear friendships with the opposite sex, and no one can blame them either!
Likely, it started in childhood with an over demanding father, no father, a sexually abusive adult, societal unhealthy programming, etc. Fear of how the male will treat them, and the consequences that will possibly happen, create any variety of personalities to thwart closeness.
Males have rarely found absolute control within themselves over their wanting to have their wishes fulfilled, and usually for biological reasons, overt or unconscious, toward who they are  attracted to rather than let the more vulnerable make the choice, or perhaps in unison.
Typically, women avoid rare males who are evolved enough to just be a friend. They  unknowingly project fear that the male wants more, or they feel insecure, and strangely even if the woman wants more. Females can be insane in not seeing whether a man is with high self love, compassion, empathy, personal communication skills, etc., or just a regular guy. However, somewhere, even in their centuries of male abuse in the DNA programming, fear is lurking. That ‘fear’ is a block of Mt. Everest proportions to get around if the passion, and action to know and love themselves is not being activated.
I have known many women who stay with a man or ‘pine’ over a relationship that’s going nowhere, but close themselves off from a rare male that is willing to be just a close friend, and no more. Inner evolvement happens when you are open, and that openness seeks another who can communicate from a position of strength with respect to your wishes.
For anyone who is on the ‘love spiritual path’, nothing but harmony should be sought, and with someone who can measure up to that. As I just told a 35 year old attractive, shy friend in LA on the phone, seek the deep friendship. A guy who is more evolved will love it and expect nothing. Drop expectations of where the relationship has to go, as he will also if he’s evolved. Friends that have deep meaning are rare, and often don’t exist. You never want to be the problem. The other, unless waking up, is destined to sadness and well, nothing. The answer to life is simple. Love of yourself and another with nothing left out. Oh, and don’t forget to drop the ‘fear of change’, and be the change! That’s the spiritual path!

Imagine No Religion

Imagine No Religion

July 26, 2014
Religion is like food stamps for the needy! Often I’m asked if I pray, and always by a Christian. My answer is, ‘everyone does to some extent. Prayer is affirmation of the positive, and no religion is needed’! Muslims pray more often than all other religions, and it’s based on the teaching of Muhammad who no non Muslim can relate to once they have heard of his background which would land him in prison for life in this age.
Any doctrine which separates people into, we are right and if you don’t agree, you’re going to eternal hell is hogwash! Any belief that says, my god is only in my religion, and satan is there for everyone else is …well, suspect! Intelligence can move to higher levels of consciousness apart from any religion. Certainly, a Buddha, Muhammad, or Jesus didn’t say this is my religion to  follow, nor would any ‘holy person’ who’s authentic require following him!  Notice the ‘him’! Where are the women who are to be followed? Even ‘God’ is a he, or Father! Isn’t this ‘mother earth’? Why not ‘mother in heaven’? Who’s been there that you or anyone physically has known who can talk about it with common sense?
Life seems to need ‘hand rails’ for people who have no idea what will give them security and hope in life. Without questioning, religions are the handrails. Freedom is necessary for people to believe or follow what they choose. Millions need to grasp onto religion and it’s caretakers who administer the encouragement and hope that their interpretation of a particular ‘holy book’ provides. Nothing wrong in that unless you get stuck in not questioning and learning. Who would want to stay in primary grades in school? They are ‘handrails’ for a certain time in the young person’s life. To accept words that someone says as the ‘word of god’ without serious questioning is the ‘eight deadly sin’ which has been left out by the centuries of those who are
‘directors and interpreters (middlemen) of religions’ because they attract those who have it.
The eighth deadly sin is ‘Acedia’ which is not easy to define but basically covers people who fear the unknown, and look for ‘ready made answers’ without questioning because they are too lazy to find answers by themselves.
Society is ruled by dictators or politicians that find it convenient to have people in boxes of thought that can be controlled by their helpers, the priests, rabbi’s, imam’s, or in other words ‘religions salesmen’. For the non questioning and fearful there is no comfort in the truth, instead accepting an authority figure espousing words of god even though it is following contrary to what other ‘authorities’ would espouse. Religion is defined as ‘a way of life’. The best way of life is love, awareness, discernment, and with a little spice called ‘humor’!
Arhata

Reboot to Innocence

Reboot to Innocence
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 July 23, 2014
Life is a process of moving away from the original innocence. A clear mind and heart vibrates with innocence. Most children are raised with the incompleteness of parental consciousness that harbors ignorance and fear passed down from the generations. Children are taught with misinformation and mis-reinforcements along with judgments that are assumed to be gospel. Baby’s are filled with wonderment, and a clean slate susceptible to outside stimuli for conditioning. The outer world is totally impressionable for future behaviors.
Life in the mind and broken or closed heart piles up obstacles to innocence and a freshness of being higher and higher usually resulting in problems emotionally, mentally, spiritually, and physically. Emptying out what’s not serving a positive healthy being is akin to emptying the ‘trash’ on the computer that no longer serves your interest. Kicking out the unnecessary is to ‘reboot’ for a new start.
Stress, bad habits, unnecessary fears, self doubts, apathy, anger, denial, the list is endless to let go of to start fresh with an open vision each day.
I’ve made it a point to track friends, relatives, acquaintances for years, especially those with correctable liabilities out of curiosity to see if they would change for the better. Sadly, rarely have I found all but small percentage who’ve moved upward in evolution. The exceptions give hope that focusing on ‘rebooting’ does happen for those with a passionate intent. No one has said that moving beyond what obstructs growth is easy, but it’s easier to do nothing, and with decreasing results. When a ‘slacker’ of change is confronted, they typically have an array of  excuses to maintain the ‘status quo’.
Innocence is bliss! Bliss is never knowledgeable. A person filled with knowledge is never blissful. The famous biblical story about Adam was that he was turned out of the garden of Eden because he ate of the ‘fruit of the tree of knowledge’, and lost his innocence of a child to an ‘ego’. Ego comes from knowledge. Knowledge is a subtle possession, and that possession creates an expanding ego of superiority. In a way, ignorance is bliss. Knowledge corrupts. Treasure ignorance, but with awareness, and innocence survives. Knowledge today can be ‘googled’ on the computer. An overloaded mind is a mind of the intellect and not of intelligence which is from awareness with a heart full of love.
Detach from knowledge, and move into innocence. When you love another, knowledge can’t be claimed – it just is, and mysterious. You are not a robot that follows life in a groove. Learn to breath deeply, and let all knowledge go. Tune in to the inner! The inner is ‘esotericism’, the opposite of the outer or exoteric. The knowledge you need will be there, but only when it’s necessary. Otherwise, innocence with awareness is the bliss and joy that’s your right! Innocence brings excitement. Excitement creates a new beginning each day, fresh and anew.

Greed & Love

GREED & Love
August 3, 2014
There are more ‘poor’ filled with greed than the rich! Of course, there are fewer ‘rich’! Giving for a ‘tax’ write off is really ‘taking’ more! The mind without the heart is never satisfied with what it has. Giving from the heart alway is a receiving for the giver. Greed in an insulation from the heart. The heart is always insufficiently filled as greed increases even with denial of greed.
Greediness is a disease. Giving often is a coverup for expectation of something in return. Sensitivity in the form of empath for anthers feelings is certainly an antidote for greed. Love is never greedy. The heart is a tank that always has some love even it’s just ‘fumes of love’, however the less love in the ‘love tank’ the greater the possibility for greed. The mind without the heart is the great deceiver, and in denial of deception and greed.
Politicians, although with many good beginning intentions, rarely do not fall into the trap of entitlement, and what decisions they can make for their pocketbook. Politicians quickly learn how to justify from their positions of power whatever decisions they make. Doing good, and covering up that which could not be exposed make the do gooder ‘no good’. The priest who does good work for many in the community, yet molests one child is not worthy of his position.  Took me a few years to learn that good deeds are often a coverup to satisfy personal desires that ned to be  hidden so as not to be exposed to anyone. It could be called ‘cheating’ and at the same time, greed.
Desire to attain is not spiritual even if is for enlightenment. It is greed. Whether the ‘to attain’ is wealth, prestige, fame, God, Nirvana, or even love, it’s a material wish for attainment which is anti spiritual. You already have within you all that you could attain for. Be who you are, or find out who you are. What you seek you have. Attainment is for the future. Be here and now while just enjoying the journey you are on.
When seeing another, see that they are perfect, a god or goddess, because they are, but cannot see that in themselves. Of course, don’t be foolish and not know that that perfect person is still stuck with uncleared past issues, and may not be on a personal journey to move beyond them. Beware of the salesmen of religion or spirituality, for they most likely oversell what they allegedly know which is usually borrowed thoughts. Again there is greed in them for wanting you to be who you are not. You are unique as is everyone. Although deep inside we are much the same where love sets  waiting for you to let go of the past and future to be in the here and now. The more greed, the less love. Life is really over for most today! Fill yourself with love, and greed is not possible.

Garage Sale Romance

Garage Sale Romance
 July 29, 2014
Or, ‘romancing stuff’. ‘Garage sales’ are wonderful, but… Until I moved into this small town at the top of Washington State several years ago, I was never exposed to these things called ‘yard sales or garage sales’. Seems quite a diversion and obsession for some. Great finds sometimes. Obsessing over them does seem to create the wrong kind of ‘hoarding’ though, not that there is a ‘right kind of hoarding’. To most, the ‘outer’ (except what’s going on in the world) seems to warrant more curiosity than the inner. That is the crux of concern over the dumbing down of Americans. Avoiding the inner castles that are neglected for outer plastic, superficial, temporary, serial joys is viral in this society.
Now, that’s not to say that an occasional trip to peruse the cheap goods at a garage sale isn’t valuable. In this town, it seems to be like a celebration whether being the seller or the buyer. It’s like a party going on from one part of town to another for surprises to be gotten. Garage sales are like ‘food stamps’ for everyone! Wonder if ever there are ‘garage sales’ in parking spaces that  sell for 1/4 million or more in Manhattan below pricey condo’s?
Anyway, flea markets or garage sales seem to support an ‘Olive Oil’ character mentality of getting more and more ‘stuff’ because it’s a ‘bargain’? Can be kinda of like seagulls scraping for food.
I encounter thousands of people weekly in my ‘free speech displays’ that are designed to encourage people to think. My hunch is that almost no one that passes has an intent of sorts to evolve their inner qualities, but to instead just survive and look for entertainment and ‘bargains’. The biggest bargain ever is life and the opportunity to climb the ladder of love of self and another. Addiction to garage sales is really looking for repressed love! When ‘things’ satisfy you more than the journey of meeting people and sharing love, somethings gone wrong! Admitting that your life is lacking a real deep sense of love is the first step to a spiritual journey to find the ‘castle of lost love’ within, and it won’t be found in scrounging garage sales!
Is your inner castle just an overstuffed garage with your ‘evolvement office’ closed for perhaps eternity? What’s in the castle of the heart is free, and no one has been showing up. Perhaps there are too many diversions as an escape from your contrived fear of finding out that who you thought you were is not the real you anyway. The path least traveled is the inner path waiting for you to make the jump from mediocrity to more bliss and joy ….with less ‘stuff’ (sometimes called ‘baggage’).

Inlightenment

Inlightenment

  July 17, 2014
Enlightenment is ‘from the outside’ in. ‘En’ is from out. ‘In’ is from within. Both are valued states of consciousness. I’ve met a few over the years who claimed ‘enlightenment’, but were not ‘inlightened’ possessing the apparent ability to manifest it with another. Enlightenment seems to be an understanding of the world, but is non transferable. Inlightenment has little to to with knowledge but an inner love that can be transferred to another from the heart. Both are valuable. Enlightenment being more solitary and prevalent among the mentally, spiritually conscious over time, particularly in the East.
The path of ‘enlightenment’ is through meditation and yoga or as some would attest to, through the mind which is able to realize by dropping the mind. Inlightenment involves combining with another where both let go of all worldly attachments yet be in the world where an intensity of love opens like a lotus blossom only the blossom of love is always ongoing regardless of the other. Enlightnment is a more ‘intellectual’ phenomenon while inlightenment is more of the heart with awareness.
Both, at this time, are still very rare states, but with the advent of open communication among coupling like never before, inlightenment is rising from almost total obscurity. To be ‘enlightened’ is to rarely be able to bond with another in an explosive synchronicity. It is an ‘alone with the alone’. To be either is to be awakened and aware of who you are with love from within. The difference being, the enlightened is not conditioned to engulf another mutually in a state of ‘no mind’.
Meditation brings love while love is a meditation. Spiritual seekers of the past have almost exclusively been male, hence the need for solitary meditation or yoga. The new spiritual seeker is really a ‘love seeker’ who will let go of everything while in inner awareness to arise to illimitable heights of joy and blissfulness. Alone but not alone. Two are alone as one. All the great seers or mystics for thousands of years found enlightenment, or enlightenment found them, alone with no one to resonate with but existence.
When the rare two meet, and the path is cleared of past obstructions, the heavens, so to speak, cast a magic aura over them where they both become unconditional with their love energy apart or together. That ‘celestial love’ merges with their shadow and becomes a fulfilled soul. Freedom from attachment comes as an invisible spirit, and they have reached the pinnacles of being free ‘in the light of love’. More than anything, enjoy or ‘in joy’ life and love.

Parrots of Mind

Parrots of Mind

 July 21, 2014
Let go of all quotes from the beginning of time, for those who allegedly said them, if they even did, likely they forgot that it came from them the next day! Knock on the window of questioning what you see, and who you can be. Humans are ‘broken’! Be the carpenter of self to be a ‘fixit guru’ of your self! Yet, know it is no measure of health that you are well adjusted in a profoundly sick society. Man (or woman) who lives by the code of repetition without discernment of validity and quality of positivity is not but a retread of ancient man. Be creative, don’t shackle the mind with some else’s mind. Avoid cognitive dissonance with someone else’s belief that doesn’t match your reality.
There is a code of silence that can’t go on if humanity is to survive the next coming moments.
numbing ourselves with all types of escapes, addictions, and denials to think one is alright, is a suicide of opportunity to evolve into the superconsciousness that is available to all. It’s time to grow up, and consider new ideas and information for both an open, critical mind, and being guided by an open, loving heart.
Religions survive in part by having their adherents program their minds with ancient scripture that likely has lost it’s original meaning anyway if ever the originator even walked the talk of consciousness. Way too much emphasis is put on quoting people. Anyone that endorses he or she being quoted is deluded. Context becomes less and less clear as time goes on. There are innumerable ways to say something with one meaning or other, and it certainly depends on the consciousness of the speaker. For example, ‘I love you’ can have many, many meanings from very superficial to from the depths of the soul.
Parroting goes far beyond use of another’s words, but in actions. The actions might be programmed from parents and/or childhood. Bad habits have a way of being repeated until death. That would be a form of ‘serial parroting’ ones bad habits, and one that shuts the window on positive initiative to seek better, and better ways to live.
Animals have conditioned responses with rare creativity in actions unless guided to do so by a human. Humans being blessed with far more dexterity’, and the ability to make decisions that are unique to them are free to be ‘one of a kind’. Parroting is a selfish habit that exhibits fear of change. Regardless of earlier barriers creating many kinds of fear that prevent thinking and being the highest self you can be, it’s worth the journey of evolving higher. Life is a journey from the phenomenons that ‘shackle’ you emotionally, physically, mentally or spiritually. Not taking the journey is to basically ‘vegetate’ and contribute little, nothing, or worse yet create harm in life. Excuses are ‘parrots of the mind’. Love is self created. Frequently give from your heart and love will grow.

Female Abusers

Female Abusers

 July 24, 2014
Male abuse over thousands of years to the female gender has become part of the females DNA . Until programming from past lives is meticulously and surgically removed, one generation after another is fatally flawed with reactionary fear and anger. Males are subject to the trauma of DNA imprinting also, but it is the stronger male that must take the helm of compassion and sensitivity to lead the path of the more gentle gender, who carries life onto earth, out of the endless serial condemnation of female abuse.
Is much of female abuse, the result of male thoughtlessness in this life? Perhaps there is no definitive answer, however it merits deep consideration for all males to consider, and move into  a more sensitive, compassionate character. It can be helpful for every male to give loving attention to all life, and in return nature will reward him with a ‘karma’ that will deepen his consciousness as it likewise affects all females he encounters.
Always, we should ask ourselves ‘how would you like to be treated’ even in negative  unconscious moments. What’s the best common sense, compassionate, loving way to respond to all interactions be they confrontational or just our perception which may indeed be an erroneous judgment?
A woman typically is endowed with more love from the heart to give to all, and yet when the male transcends his testosterone desires into the heart and consciousness, few females today can rival the deep love and caring that can emanate from a male who has evolved. Most males are beholden to their primal energies of their youth that were never evolved into a higher consciousness.
Male-female interaction, like the world at large is going through a transition, but in the meantime, appears to be in a confused mess. The world at large must become more skewed toward feminine energy. Conscious women who focus on their inner powers to know themselves, and become more discerning of what males to bond with, if any, needs to become individually and collectively the call to arms. For the first time in history, harmony between the sexes is possible where each is regarded as an equal. Both male and female need their major focus in life to evolve inwardly while casting out the attachment to obstructions from earlier times in this life with the perspective that they may be carrying programming from their upbringing, culture or genetically in their DNA.
Critically, it’s time for males to grow up and be real men who live their feminine side in balance with the male side. After all, we all came from a male and female, 50/50. Real men today are compassionate and sensitive, not controlling, angry, disrespectful, and harboring the seven deadly sins. If the love tank is low, meditation and giving from the heart fills it up. Great things take time, but time is love. Life and love is counting on you!
Arhata