Pot & Love
March 6, 2014
…Go together like a cart before the horse! Other than pot dealing with pain, and an occasional puff to get ‘high’ there is no reason to mix pot and love. Saying pot improves love is too admit you’ve smoked too much already! Deep love needs the total and full consciousness of yourself, and with another having the same characteristics. No stimulant is going to improve what already works. Conscious use of a stimulant, be it marijuana, to ‘unscramble’ certain attached to barriers to letting go and opening vulnerably may occasionally work in the short run, but a disaster in the long run.
Stimulants added to make love making more intense suggests something is wrong without it, and perhaps that has some merit in the short term but is a mask to barriers that need to be let go of that only get repressed. Repressions and denial certainly don’t stop life but steer it into a mixture of emotional and mental ups and downs that ‘short out’ the flow of blisses and joys we are all entitled to continuously experience.
From years of observation, I would guess that males smoke 90%+ of the available marijuana. Men in general, seem to have an unconscious suicide wish in their makeup along with raging hormones that look for an outlet in many varied ways, and often self abusive or abusive to others. I suggest lots of caution in bonding with anyone, male or female who have any current substance abuse, as well as even past history. Anyone defending their substance use is simply full of malarky, and best to avoid. It’s easy for someone who hasn’t experienced higher states of being to brush off the unknown to them.
We consume more air than anything else by far. Why do anything else that alters your thinking and consciousness, when instead you can make the choice to take step by step naturally without any ‘buzz’ substances. People are ‘addiction prone’ because of not dealing with various forms of early abuse piled on with contemporary continued abuse to their mind and heart. That which ‘buries’ unsolved challenges and hurts, creating a desire to take care of it by resorting to any belief system or substance abuse, unquestionably leads one off the path of love’s peaks.
Using meditation and love provides all the qualities and more needed to overcome the negatives that attach themselves to take over your life to avoid it being incomplete. Everyone needs a ‘wise person’ to show them life’s ways. That wise man is not pot nor any other outside ‘upper’. The wisdom you seek is always within you that can only be accessed by a humble, vulnerable, open heart! Why be impotent in respect for yourself?
Seek the healthiest ways!
March 6, 2014
Fear of being hurt because of past fears creating ‘hurts’ that in turn creates an emotional circle around all interactions to repel all but ‘sequestered’ connections. Sequestering is to withdraw into a seclusion, and is often a term used for juries in a legal situation. The judge or arbitrator decides to keep the jury from any outside information by housing all of them in private places away from all information that could influence them in their purpose of judging based only on information shared in the courtroom.
Intimacy with selective sequestering of vulnerable emotions is a state of coward’s love. People meet people for intimacy while each wears a mask around the heart, and who they really are. Love is out, and available to meet you, but wearing a mask certainly scares it away. That mask is the ‘false you’ who carries the burdens of what others have added, and you have accepted without moving above the judgements.
We are responsible for creating our own destiny. Thoughts are things especially when it comes to emotions. Our hopes, fears, plans, worries, guilts, dreams, and imaginings do not vanish after leaving our mind, but turn into invisible thought and emotional forms that follow a life like an invisible shadow. Most people are not in charge of their own thoughts, and constantly bombard their high self with an uncontrolled and contradictory mixture of plans, wishes, and fears. The whole process confuses or pollutes the higher self from the highest information and the highest flow of love energy.
You can remake yourself into a viable, blissful positive being. It is necessary to take time out at frequent intervals to visualize what you wish to bring into your inner life. Anyone can have a strong ability to shape their future by taking responsibility. We are what we think as well as what we feel in the heart. Too many ‘padlock’ their openness both in their mind and heart. ‘Padlocked people meet padlocked people. Positive people meet and connect with the same.
Sequestering the mind and or heart is an escape from the courage to break through the irrational comforts of a self that is controlled by outside forces never being at peace for long. To be locked in a box from the freedom of mind and heart expressions is in a sense to be homeless, or locked out of your inner. It’s time to ‘knock, knock’ and open the doors of your being, and let the fresh air of feelings and positive thoughts circulate!
“True love is not confined to the physical, or romance. True love is accepting everything the other is, what was, what is and what is not”
Grind Up Males
March 4, 2014
February 14, 2014
Ever wonder why you don’t get rooster meat when you buy that genetically modified chicken you consume with little concern for what happened in the process from birth to your mouth? Roosters are mean SOB’s, so chicken farmers have a way of sorting out the males and females except for a very few males. As chicks they grind up baby males and sell them for dog and cat food! Thing is you don’t need hardly any roosters to deliver a ‘happy chicken’ to your mouth, and that goes for eggs too! Oh, and a rooster is good for chasing varmint’s away on smaller chicken farms, not to mention good for waking up the neighbor’s early as well as chicks to lay their eggs.
In other words, Rooster are more of a problem inspite of their usefulness. All wars and most abuse, even of females who in turn become, well, far less abusive. With sperm banks providing the means to populate the earth along with a few males in proportion to females, maybe it’s time to reduce these ‘cocky male varmints’ who as much as they contribute some things, it’s offset by every imaginable satanic action to make it a less happy world. Really if your priest does wonderful things, and yet molests your kid, what to do? The ‘rooster idea’ in this high tech world must have a message?!
Other than a man’s wallet and ‘tickle stick’, why are most needed? They, including your husband and boyfriend, don’t love as much as you do anyway! It’s really about ‘loving yourself’, although I’ll admit the harmonious resonance of two in a partnership is the greatest human love possible. At this time, due to ignorance and the deification of the mind (and man as God), love is mostly a word sustained by obligation and imagination of whatever. It’s time to ‘reboot’ humanity, and that may mean finding a safe means to reduce the male population!
If we can put a man on the moon, surely we can ferret out male embryos from female. It isn’t rocket science! Domination, manipulation and control are the three, typical pillars of male action world wide. It’s time for a more conscious female energy, and for men to change by stepping down, putting in a new tape, and being the new man. Not a bad idea to learn from chicken farming though for a few years anyway. Grind up the old habits that have made all the ugliness that has continued century after century. Make you and the world a ‘revolution of the heart’ in seeing and living from the open, loving heart. Time to ‘grind up’ the old man into a new compassionate, aware world. That’s the ‘New World Order’ that would make it a far more beautiful life.
You are Irrelevant
March 4, 2014
February 13, 2014
The mind is a garbage collector with some things in there worth keeping you ‘afloat’ to ‘dumpster dive’ through the garbage to pull out treasures. ‘Treasures’ being things like the secrets to knowing who you are, how to love yourself and another, how to have an opening, questioning mind – on and on. Oh, and the good news is that there are also tools to handle everyday mundane things even if they are covered with ‘garbage’.
To make the point, picture dogs. Big, small, very small, and all kinds going over thousands of years of dog generations.They ALL have things in common! They are dogs that smell the ground, shake their bodies, look at you quizzically, etc., etc. Humans are humans all with certain ‘same characteristics’ going back beyond the neanderthal times. However, humans have an ability to change and evolve beyond what any animal has. All dogs deep down are perfectly ‘dogs’ without scars from past treatment, abuse, lack of etiquette, etc. People too are perfect and made of all the same substance as each other, but their personalities are formed by different past conditions.
People ‘wear’ those past influences good or bad, and such that they automatically begin to assume that it is them TOTALLY! People get too busy chasing this and that while dealing with their egos shaped by the past, usually totally missing the inner perfection that is the real YOU. The outer you, and your identification with it as being the real ‘inner you’ is nothing but an illusion! Settling on identifying that you are the Michael or Audrey that you identify with is to be stuck in a belief system as well as is putting anyone, including so called Saviors above you, is a trap.
The trap needs to be emptied of all beliefs you cling to, which may require lots of courage to go beyond fears of letting the ‘old you’, like old clothes, go. Not letting go like that is to make the real inner YOU irrelevant, and likely untouched throughout life. Getting ‘stuck’ on programming from the past, especially life’s liabilities is to block seeing who you are. ‘Who ARE YOU’ was a meditation game I’ve done at my meditation groups where people are divided into pairs. They sit on the floor facing each other while one spends 15 or more minutes asking the other, ‘who are you’? Then, they reverse positions. It’s very challenging and heart opening. Deep love and/or meditation will let your heart open, sending the answer to ‘who you are’. When the YOU is reached, the outer you becomes more irrelevant, and the inner becomes your guide or angel. Time to not take the outer too seriously. More magic, joy and bliss comes from knowing the real you!!!
Husbands are God
March 3, 2014
Bullshit! Sadly, other than the millions of so called ‘pussy whipped’ males, most males treat their wives as if they are the final say, or alas, God! No woman should be in a relationship if she has a partner who either is not the most evolved in his ability to love back, or is compassionately working to evolve to the peaks of love’s joys. Most men are consumed by their work and extra curricular activities, but not on how to be an example of a man who can love a woman totally, and while not being her teacher.
If a woman wants primarily security, she should live with, or marry a man of ‘well means’, and accept a more run of the mill love relationship with its ups and downs as well as less than an unconditional love. Want the best love relationship, or a secure (?) one with lots of material advantages? Take one or the other, settle for a little of both, but never will it be the best of both worlds together. Sadly, most have not found the freedoms of total unconditional love.
Personally I see it is the first time in life that couples can have all the love that’s possible, and live well without a lot of stress, investment ups and downs, bills, unnecessary messy problems, and instead living in the vulnerable heart space.
Couples who are living in high consciousness are complete with each other, and have the freedom to do as they please with little or no struggle and conflict. This type of couple is a light onto the world. The world has existed with more negativity than positive since recorded history. Look at any media source, and there is conflict with killing everywhere. Drugs, thievery, murder, assault and every reason to fear harm everywhere, and from mostly husbands, estranged husbands, wannabe husbands and future husbands. It’s a world spinning out of control yet we have the tools of education and technology to evolve into a new humanity.
Men have controlled the world’s negativity during all of time. With this ability it can, and must be converted into active means to control instead the growth of only the positive while at the same time controlling the negative that permeates every aspect of life. The new religion need only be love, and following a path to accentuate the growth of that love. Inside each person is a perfect spirit that all can meet on an equal level with anyone. No longer is it positive to ignore your deep inner, while thinking that the outer you and the falsely programmed surface inner is the real you. To be different from each other makes life fascinating, however the deep inner love within each of us is the same the world over. Love of self changes everything!
You Don’t Know How to Love
February 24, 2014
Why? Partial love is what most everyone does – is that enough? I say, all the way or walk. From birth to death, it’s not necessary to be able to love yourself and another totally. If that’s ok with you, it’s your choice to ignore life’s greatest opportunity. Falling short of being able to love yourself is always to fall short of loving another whatever your ego may say otherwise. One who loves themselves is most capable of loving all others, but love is highest with reciprocity with another who loves you in mutual totality. Is your love of self and another in a coupling enough to show the world as the best example of love’s expression?
No one can tell you how to love anymore than an expert in some sport can tell you all the secrets before you go on the court to face a tennis pro. The information helps, but in this case you have to be fit in all ways to even begin to play with total heart and focus regardless of prior ‘how to do’s’. Since in everything including deep love, the one showing up with more fears and blocks sets the pace in all couplings. A tennis pro is relegated to play at the level of the weaker except if the weaker is giving their all to blend.
Love going deep (meaning high) to the possible peaks comes through letting go of all mind obstructions either through meditation or full, deep, mutual love with no barriers. Your heart is your real self, and will never lie to you. Drop the mind except in situåtions calling for ‘mechanical functions’. The mind is a garbage collector while some of the garbage is useful, resting your mind in your heart, you will feel an overwhelming joy and bliss. Partial love is also a ‘garbage collector’ that continues to fill the barriers up for the ‘free flow of love’. The ‘free flow of love’ from both sides of a partnership has no ‘garbage in it’! To gain all the mind wants, and leave the heart broke is to miss the greatest opportunity on earth – the blessings of a ‘divine total love’.
Your heart hurts because love gets stuck or squeezed smaller in the mind. Not all in the heart can send the imprint to the mind if the mind is filled with too much clutter from the past. Letting your mind do the feelings, good or bad instead of ‘you’ creates ‘partial love’ which is ‘pain creating’. Love lets go of the mind which is left to ‘do things in life’. Let the heart open where someone is there to open their heart and likewise let go of the mind. If it ain’t happening, it’s probably time to move on, and pay attention to your heart to see where it is received in addition to you having an open, aware heart. As hard as it seems to know love to the ultimate, it’s really easy. Let go and the ‘surrender’ will happen!
Talking to a Dog or a Christian
February 24, 2014
February 10, 2014
They both look at you with their head to the side. People love dogs – they are smart, even though there is a point at which you can’t reach them. Don’t matter whether you are Christian, Muslim, Hindu, Buddhist, or Dog there is a point at which no amount of intelligence will evoke a common sense response. Of course, those of a religion that are mostly in name only usually can think for themselves and question. However, the ‘hard core’ – yi-yi! It’s like trying to get your computer working when their is no connection with the server. No matter what you do, or how much common sense to get it to work, it’s useless!
You gotta love these ‘critters’ regardless, and stick with real small talk about food or the weather or maybe going for a ‘walk’. Now dogs tend to respond to the ‘word food or walk’ as will the religion robots. Always love dogs inspite of their habits such as ‘sniffing the ground’ or barking for no sensible reason. Religion sheeple are the same in a way, only they take on the characteristic of parrots too always quoting, never thinking! At least there is some variety between human, dog, parrot, and alas ‘robot’.
Reasons to love them are there, and it’s good to have the compassion for the fact that they run to their ‘Savior’ or holy book from previous trauma that resulted in someone of ‘faith’, chicken hawking them. ‘Chicken hawking’ is a term used when an older adult sees another much younger (usually male)male approaching adulthood, and usurping his sexuality thirst into his own biological hunger. Some of the innocent ones may never have gone gay, but ‘so it be’. So in the case of some becoming a religion, a ‘religion salesman’ comes in to offer an answer to life to the innocent victim.
There was a mystic in the early mid 20th century from Russia named George Gurdjieff who coined the term ‘kundabuffer’. Not only does it apply to people really into religion plus dogs, and people who can’t get into ‘free thinking’, like most couples allegedly in some form of love. Kundabuffer is an invisible predisposition of protecting yourself from the discomfort of having to deal with things that would be disturbing to your familiar and cozy habits of being. All but a few couples frequently lose whatever sense of love and bliss they once crooned over. In that state of ‘kundabuffer’, it’s like talking to a dog if good ideas are presented to the typical struggling couple on how to rise above their quicksand of maladies. They become stuck in looping habits detrimental to a permanent imprinting of real love for each other. Life with out the freedoms of open, melodious, consistent communication in the balance of heart and mind is to live partially. No position in life is better than to live alone in knowing yourself other than to have that, and be in union with another in that godliness of bliss and joy.
February 23, 2014
Baking cookies or watching football anymore should not be a major part of your life! What are you contributing for the rest of your life to make the world a better place?
Time to stop ‘inventing lies’, excuses, and relying on the ‘you’ that is the accumulation of other’s inventions. Time to take responsibility for updating, and reinventing who you’ve settled on becoming! Truth is, ‘find out who you really are’ apart from who has consistently shown up! Omissions can be a lie! You are living an ‘omission’ of your true self, AND the lie that you are currently being your true self. Stop fooling yourself and everyone you encounter. This is the moment since the beginning of human life that is a ‘wake up time’ for all the world. If you don’t, you’re part of a problem that will add to the malaise of billions that are just sluffing along.
For the first time in life on the planet, everyone needs to snap out of the dream in their head regardless of your ‘body age’. You are NOT who you think you are! Your personality is one thing, but it’s still a cover up! Time to be ‘reborn’ into the conscious human that is deep within as a seed of ‘godliness’! Humanity is being the same as they were in the neanderthal ages with minor outer adjustments for the high tech world we live in.
Inventions, specifically technological inventions WON’T STOP happening! At the incredible pace they are happening, soon robots will seem more human than you, in fact you may be a ‘robot’ that is malfunctioning! Guns that in seconds will dissolve you, are well into the invention state! Man is, at the moment, too undeveloped to control the overwhelming influx of inventions. His mind is seeing them from a greedy, ignorant perspective to let them proliferate without adequate controls. Chaos comes before a reorganization often. We are in the chaos, and need to wake up by discarding old, questionable programming for seeing that we individually need to open our hearts, and not just the mind of the intellect in its various levels. ‘Intelligence’ means opening the heart, living in awareness, being adaptable to circumstances, using common sense, and using discernment to choose the highest, loving choices.
Our institutions need ‘reinvention’ from all social ones including politics and religions. Political parties have reached the point of ugliness by selling out for getting votes for money, power and manipulation. It’s time to put the brakes on mindless growth of new or reinventions that have no controls in the interest of protecting mankind. The moment is here for us to plant the seeds for now and future generations of a new man and woman that live in the highest realms of human possibilities. We need to break away from past accumulated habits that will not best serve a world of exploding technology and information. Now is the time to break away from the matrix that you’ve succumbed to. Seek the inner quiet within and in that silence, the real you of inner tranquility, peace, bliss, and joy blossoms. There is freedom within that needs to be used to help make it a greater, healthier freedom in the ‘with-out’!
February 19, 2014
Is ‘good’ enough?
Personally, I think marriage can be the greatest possibility in living life to the fullest! However, marriage is usually between ‘mixed feelings’ of two people who have evolved (?) into what they call a ‘good marriage’. Men often marry for more steady sex, but still harbor some conditional love within. Women tend to feel it will satisfy their longing for more love. Both are usually disappointed. Rarely is communication improved as two people intertwined into what should be the peak of ‘gods’ image flowering. Marriage needs to be more than a haphazard functional arrangement to have two incomes, or children, or to have one’s insecurities, or biological needs to be taken care of.
People drift away in memories of times long past. Consciously, they use those good early memories to give them justification for continuing hanging with the aging car of marriage. Or, perhaps time has come to trade in one, until the next ‘one’ presents themself in a flurry that replaces the memories of the first ‘fling marriage’. It’s common to continue where you left off after a new flurry of emotion and promises. People rarely ‘correct’ what contributed to the prior problems that you were likely a contributor to.
It’s not so easy just to click over to a new relationship without being aware of what made the other a formerly declared ‘good relationship’. Generally, two had bad habits from earlier years that didn’t get fixed. The main one centers around fears of intimacy, commitment, and well, total communication. People get comfortable with emotional pains, or inability to express emotions themselves and/or their partner. Most, strangely, unconsciously fear the unknown of letting go to a deeper connection, perhaps having a sense of unworthiness and a fear of failing.
Whether maintaining a relationship that is more ‘just functional’ than one that could be shown to the world, or beginning a new one, courage is needed to move past the problems, or bad habits that have been the pattern. Relationshits are your choice for reasons inside your past that need to change. Opening the door to new fresh air comes with a focus on meditation or love. The ‘love’ may need an intention and meditation to open up greater vulnerabilities.
The path may not be easy in the shift depending in some part on your circumstances. Meditation to open up ‘love’s doors’ will inevitably create unknown confusions, and perhaps a little chaos in letting go of barriers you’ve lugged along for ever. The ‘intent of the mind and heart’ must stay strong in an evolving transition to a higher state of being. The ‘gold’ in relationships is worth the climb out of what doesn’t work beyond even ‘good’. What waits is the greatest joy and bliss possible. From experience, I can see no reason to not reach for the highest love.
Men Must Submit
February 17, 2014
February 6, 2014
All love between a man and a woman suffers from ego and fears. Love between two people is rarely not conditional …at best! Conditional love is ‘fast food love’ that is merely a ‘knockoff’ of words learned, mixed with little portions of emotion that bounce between happiness, disregard, fears, angers, flipping back to bits of moments of happiness. Men have unconsciously taken on the characteristics of a manipulator, dominator, and controller of women’s lives as if they were entitled.
Man has written all the so called ‘holy books’ with himself primarily in mind. Even this ‘god’ in the Abrahamic religions is referred to as the ‘Father in the Sky’! Man’s main function now is to give his sperm for proliferation of the human specie. However, women can survive without 98% of males who are just replicas of a slight improvement over their neanderthal predecessors. Today, even sperm banks are very available, and capable of resulting in billions of offspring.
I have one friend from my Yesss Center in Venice Beach who was the centerfold of a male playmate magazine, and was invited many times to give sperm to a ‘sperm bank’ in LA. Several years ago he was written up in the New York Times. He has met many of his offspring, but may have over 100 that he has not met. If a woman wants ‘maximum love’, and be responsible for giving it in return, she still at this time of transition of males from neanderthal mindsets to the new conscious man has a better chance of finding love with children, or the company of other women.
Sad thing is, most all women will unknowingly fall into the ‘love trap’ that at first appears wonderful, but in a relatively short time falls to where the male was before the connection. Love can be breath taking, and happens when two people first come together, and the energy of love is high. As time goes on, the male typically slips into taking love for granted as he takes on the ‘old male role’ of finding other things more important than who he professed love to be. The female continues in going deeper in love, until it turns to frustration with lack of equivalent male reciprocity. It needs to always be realized, that the lower in giving love ALWAYS controls the relationship.
When you allow the wrong person in your bed, stuff will be missing like joy, peace, love, hope, compassion, mutual communication, freedoms, deep love … Yes, people steal these things! To be totally vulnerable with your heart is best done with another who also will demonstrate the same all the time. Anything less is sadly merely a business deal. Someone said that without marriage there would be no misery. I would like to add, without conscious couples the world will never evolve!