Would Jesus Text?
October 11, 2014
Fear of communication in the ‘age of communication’ makes for poor communication! In all of history, those who controlled the flow and content of communication by which the masses defined their circumstances and their mindsets, ruled. Hasn’t been that long since ordinary people had little means of communication, or the how’s, individually and beyond their own little community or village. Still, at this point, communication has two individual problems. One is not knowing how, the other is not doing it, especially on a personal level. Technology has thrown a wrench into personal communication advances by having millions do it with computer technology usually in using cryptic pixels that leaves the personal connection akin to ‘robot talk’.
For most of life people remained in their little place of birth only setting out a few miles on foot. Near 100% of the world’s people were unknown, and out of touch with each other. A man teaching the word of God likely could not read or even talk so that others could grasp the message, not to mention that the message didn’t reach further than the size of a small county that the US has thousands of.
With all the means of communication electronically today, a Jesus thoughts would be lost in the soup among thousands of others who have even more to say of value reaching out to millions. Only in recent years have we had an interactive communications web, and yet most of the world’s population is banned at this time from participation. It’s just been a few years since modern man evolved 200,000 years ago that humans have been able to have world interaction ( and, yet countries like China or Russia, and much of the middle east have blocks on communication from outside their countries). Inventions to facilitate interaction are constantly being developed or improved as we chip away at the billions under control and lockdown to ultimately break through so all beings on earth can communicate with each other.
Technological advancements may create a social communication opportunity, but still the personal communication hovers just above the stone age, or so it seems. Not only do political and religion systems put up barriers to truth but the human condition, even in America is such that communication among people who are close, from relatives, co- workers, friends, or lovers is fraught with areas that open conversation is rarely not limited. The majority of the world’s people have never had the experience of totally open communication with one person, and that includes married couples. Know and love thyself first. Disappearing into another into a deep love is where ‘texting will never take you’! Go deep in love and a more spiritual, conscious world opens!
Stalking Isn’t Love
October 9, 2014
Repeatedly watching, following or harassing you within a relationship, or in a broken one is not an example of love. I’m currently witnessing a very attractive, classy professional 50 year old woman being watched, harassed, followed, and verbally abused by an ex boyfriend, middle aged, possessive, Don Juan wannabe. Like millions today who haven’t found out who they really are in their available ‘high consciousness’, he flirts with substance abuse while deeply involved with his delusions as well as ‘friendship’ with inner demons.
Many people stalk themselves while attracting another who does the same. That ‘self stalking’ is a repeated, often endless pattern of continuing to follow their inner faults, and unresolved issues through out a relationship, or serial relationships. You attract what you cling to inside yourself! Examining thyself, and making modifications is to unwrap the real beauty that hides inside you. The world is filled with negativity. All that’s necessary to have lots of it is to carry lots of it inside yourself. You and all were created for a purpose. Once you figure out what that purpose is blissful fortune smiles upon your life. Who you love always needs to be questioned as to why and how much.
Few can love so deep that love doesn’t need to be said anymore and just a breathing part of life, but only when all negative blocks are dissipated. Most are stuck with something they call love because they occasionally feel the emotion, and erroneously think that is all there is. Love is given out to everyone. The tragedy is that few breath in the whole supply to fill their very being with self perpetuating love endlessly. Your real true life companion to make you whole is to be filled with an abundance of love, and not just glimpses of it between depression, anxiety, and every type of other fear and limitation imaginable.
Pay attention to your heart. At times it may hurt or suffer but would you want a heart that didn’t feel, or even one that was excited at all times even when the moment is inappropriate? Love is freedom! Love does not possess! Love communicates. Love wants what the other wants for themselves without hurting anyone. Throw away self stalking, or stalking after someone else’s self and move closer the the lightness of love and happiness. Let the heart dance to the waiting joy within. Love is between two, but is first in you! Be happy and dance into the light of love, for it’s your purpose in this unique time on earth. Show your love!
Your Wife is My Friend
Oct. 2, 2014
Love means freedom. Freedom with love, and all its qualities such as trust, communication, compassion, openness, etc. Control, manipulation, and domination kill freedoms, and of course ‘love’. Love on ‘crutches’ always misses the ‘mark’. Friendship is vital to not only a couple in love, but the freedom to have friendship with others ‘independently’ apart from with other couples.
The old marriage was about a roller coaster of existence. The old marriage canceled most connection with friends both old and new, male and female. The old marriage was a lot about survival as well as survival of the marriage even to the point of enclosing yourself from the ‘we’ that you once pledged in love to one another. ‘You’re the only one for me’ has been compromised by serious doubts as well as the state of the moment in life of the world where social norms of marriage have all but disintegrated. Today’s world makes it socially more acceptable to ‘go it alone’. Still, couples are frequently locked in a ‘love-freedom closeout’ as well as being trapped in a relationship going no where but ‘same ole, same ole’ … at best.
Great couplings are a total submerging into one another creating a ‘third person’ called an us or a we (three) – you, me, and we! Wherever you go, the we is there, and yet the total commitment allows for the freedom of each other. It is that giving of freedom to the other that creates a deeper bonding to treasure each other. Most couples put ‘chains’ on each other, or ‘put their heads in the sand’ about each others time apart from the ‘we’ which isn’t bonded but based on ‘loose assumptions’ that don’t serve a deepening love.
Marriage must never become an obligation like a business arrangement, or be a coupling for fear of being alone to protect what has become a ‘going through the motions’. Compassion in a deep love is automatic. In a love that is dysfunctional it’s an opportunity for being in the heart, and deciding to do your best in rising above problems, or removing yourself while with total empathy, compassion, and respect for the other.
Today’s woman, in particular favors breaking the chains of past millenniums of being subservient to a man. Today’s evolved man wants a woman he loves to have all freedom she desires. As a ‘we or us’, each other’s mind and heart is melted into the other beyond the old necessity to be fearful, untrusting, possessive, jealous, etc. Love needs to be a celebration which naturally happens when two come as one!
99% of Males Abused
September 27, 2014
The greatest abuse is that which you put upon yourself! Abuse comes relative to one’s perception. Abuse might take any form or circumstance apart from coming through another human. That which causes emotional, psychological, physical, mental, spiritual discomfort or possibly enduring life harm is abusive or harmful. Early abuse is usually beyond a child’s capacity to understand why their actions or non actions created an adult action that hurt them to the very core of their being, which is generally innocence. As one grows up, it is then that many abuses have their origin from choices that the ‘adult’ makes.
One with early abuses in their perception, and often ‘credible’, lie in wait for infinite circumstances that attract more, or ever are the fuel to be the abuser. You cannot change that which you are unaware of. Many, males or females are abusive unknowingly or not taking responsibility for. Unexamined behaviors and corrections are sadly the norm for most of humanity. Particularly in the US, changes at this time are happening at such a fast pace that the ‘right use of time’ has taken a back seat to satisfying the outer ‘outer offerings’ at the expense of attention given to the inner.
Abuse, until recent years, has been largely uncommunicated to the vast majority. With the advent of greater communication through the medias, especially on the internet and cameras everywhere, the lights on everything are giving a feedback of activities never before collectively seen as common. The hidden personal abuses of infinite generations passed are now exposed as continuing presently, but subject to being seen, and hopefully a reminder to come from the heart and doing good.
The more sensitive gender of the female has been the victim, more hidden or covert, of abuse than was ever imaginable before the continued exposing of information denied or cloaked in all the past. Like ‘slaves’, until beginning in the last century, recognition of them and other categories were treated as not of the quality of white males. I’ve talked to many, many females over the last few years, asking them if they were abused as children or adults by males sexually or physically. To my surprise, those who had been adults for a few years answered more in the affirmative. When asked as to what percent of adult females in this country did they think were abused physically or sexually, including rape or unwanted molestation by males, they invariably said 60-90%!
Abuse from others must not be left without a dedication to let go of the ‘webs of coagulation of the mind, heart and spirit. Attract those with harmony, in their heart, and positive.
September 29, 2014
Love can be a demon! Some love is best to run from, at least without hurting the one you are/were stuck on. Love is perfect, but ‘mixed love’ that never gets a solid, positive footing with its elements of negativity swirling within it, can be a hopeless drama that has no end, unless you move on and recover while learning from the experience. You don’t need to be with someone to love them. Nor, do you need to not love another. Love is very capable of moving to a new house, so to speak, and still treasure where it has been. Love never dies.
Love wants to be where it is most able to express itself, and share that expression with another who has no limitations in their heart. When one or both won’t let go of personal unresolved issues that make the love connection problematic, the situation becomes ‘sticky’. When one tries to disconnect, sometimes the other exhibits recurring displays of resistance that make the physical disconnect ‘sticky’. Love that is mixed with unresolved issues of one or both is like food laced with a hidden, addictive drug, or even a drug laced with some foreign matter that cheapens it for the seller but gives the buyer some of what he thinks he’s getting. So it is with most love. There is usually enough of the real thing to cover up the fears and ‘problematic things’ that create a negative dependency.
Roller coaster love always is sticky. To extricate yourself from the ‘battles of love’ is a phenomenon of karma for being where angels fear to tread, but you nevertheless took the plunge. Love can turn into a battle field where unresolved issues have come to the surface to hopelessly demand a harmony where the egos of dissension rule.
The secret of relationship is the same as living in California: Don’t dwell on the faults. Focus on what is working, not the negative. Relationshits come from not paying attention. The darkness is not your destiny. No matter how bad your past was you can start now.
All it takes is one person to see your highest possibilities, and you humbling yourself to be open and in your heart. If no one out there is doing that, let that one person be you. Quit identifying with your difficulties, finding justifications for them and arguing them. Become a force for your own potential. Shift your attention to what is going right and how great it could be.
There is a rhythm in the harmony of life and love that needs you to harmonize with! Make smooth music within for a classic dance with the joy and blessings that will follow it. Falling in love might just be a ‘fall’. Rise in love together endlessly! Why get stuck in love that only gets stuck in ‘sticky love’?