September 18, 2014
A new classification of people is ‘transgender’. You may be a ‘transgender’ and not even realize it, in fact we need a more transgender world! There are a few definitions of a ‘transgender’. Perhaps the more well known alludes to the seemingly beautiful female who, beneath that dress holds a surprise! Like a growing small percentage of people, the world is in transition as for it’s meaning. We all come from a male and female. Half and half, yet most people’s identity follows their ‘genital inheritance’, and accompanying physical, emotional and character attributes, male or female.
All of history is one of male domination throughout the world. Maleness and femaleness is skewed in both, to minimize or eliminate the attributes of the other. There has been little individual or collective balance, hence a society and relationships in a more negative light. With the dawn of a new age where people are slowly being regarded as equal in most opportunities, men and women are switching roles gradually, and taking on both roles. For all of time, man and woman have been in a ‘trance’ to fit in roles generation after generation resulting in a separation in all aspects of their being.
Unification of the human spirit whether it be spiritually, emotionally, mentally or otherwise is more of an opportunity during these transitional times from the horse and buggy, agricultural age into the age of technological, communication, and spiritual advancements. Opportunities for improvement of everything are increasing at lightening speed during ones life that are infinitely more than in all of history combined. The dinosaur age of all negligible advancements is over, and yet most are still stuck in the quicksands of times lockstep.
Time to break the trance based on yesterdays beliefs and values at odds with reality. All of us are part of the generational shift from pre modern times. We now live many years longer within a world with limitless advances to aid in our experiences in all ways.
Each is in the doorway of a deeper grounding in love rather than the love of money. You can realign your energy and transcend the past personal and cultural limitations here and now. The ‘time of now’ is the treasure of gold that waits for an awakening within to the limitless energies of authentic love. No longer is repression of the dilemmas of the inner self necessary.
Time to ‘toss out’ and let go of yesterdays barriers to a more perfect being, which by the way, was always there. Now we have the space and time with techniques to see who you really are. Nirvana is within you! Don’t miss the journey inward! Open yourself to the male and female within you, and be part of the flow of the current generation that more and more on earth have available. Be in the flow of the ‘transgenderational’!
Porn, Facebook, & Husbands
October 12, 2014
We have a communication problem in America! The shrapnel that results in discordant relationships is more common than not. Clear channels of communication with oneself let alone others is discolored by infinite misperceptions, misinformation, and just avoidance of information that would keep ‘truth’ as one of the most valued phenomenons as it should be. These seem to be the days of ‘technological communication’ that avoids the warm cuddly one that is so missed. Cuddly communication is communication that avoids ‘selective communication’, which is a real perversion of the word!
It’s my perception from continually meeting infinite samples of people in what I do, that there is a serious failure to communicate let alone infinite other values that an evolving human ‘being human’ should be cognizant and active with. Real communication leaves nothing out especially in connection with those who we have committed our life with, be they a partner married or not.
Men generally are unfulfilled sexually in a way that most women are not. When they don’t know how to communicate well, they resort to fantasy and maltreatment of women be they partners or strangers. We complain about our government being ‘selective’ in their information truthfulness, and yet are you not the same? Porn sites and fishing for women on the Facebook social site is not necessarily disingenuous unless it’s done in unawareness of a love partner. I think it’s called ‘cheating’. ‘Cheating’ can be using technology to further pleasure. Alone, it’s a choice and your right. In a partnership and maybe with a family too, it needs to be by agreement, and the wife should always have the same open privileges as the man, and with his positive acceptance. After all, freedom is an essential ingredient of love.
Few women are not unfulfilled in love, and due to a lack of communication both with themselves as responsible, and in finding someone who they can have full communication with. Males and females rarely do not just accept mediocrity and missing communication. Most learn to ‘work around’ each other foibles covertly, or selecting to be blind to what the other is up to. Discernment and awareness are important steps into deep love, and a more spiritual life. Angels don’t do well where devils dwell. Life lived without integrity and truth attacks invisible angels who assist in guiding you on life and love’s journey.
Bring in the angels for an angelic journey through life. Whatever it takes on the road into love, stay on that road, and avoid the traps of diversions. One of the biggest diversions is to not treasure the blossoming harmony that communication is always sparking.
October 13, 2014
From the ‘honeymoon of love’ to the endless bootcamp of reality, love for the unprepared is standard operating procedure. Is it a disease, or just karma for running on to the field of love as in sports lingo, onto the ‘sandlot of love’? Over the years, I’ve closely watched every couple, or one ‘released from love’ to dig into their experiences. The result, at this point, is that no one could pay me any amount of money to be a committed partner in any of them. Have I personally experienced what nearly all have missed? Of course, or I wouldn’t spend these ongoing years writing about it!
Those who claim to be ‘in the know’ as professionals of human behavior may talk a big talk, but haven’t walked it. The masks that people cling to, are rarely not on, even where intimacy needs ‘no mask’. Love is cracked, and more often broken and on crutches, or in the crack of memory of a few moments that don’t endure. Love, real love, endures apart from being with another. Real deep love comes through the connection of two in high spirit, or passionately and consciously evolving into the vibration. Only love gives inner freedom. All other freedom is not sustaining inner freedom.
‘Acedia’, or the ‘8th deadly sin’, manifests itself in life and love as lack of passion for the highest spheres of the aura of love. When love is an unfixed ‘crack’ in the energy, all sorts of impediments including the manifestations of unresolved earlier issues, spreads like a ‘cancer to love’ rarely acknowledged, but instead accepted with non genius ways to work around the dissatisfaction points rather than moving to the heart’s answers. Why look in all the wrong places for the love that you secretly want? We are all vessels of a spiritual self that is here to deepen itself through love in the world of material reality.
Both genders, deep inside, yearn for the love that they had as an unborn, as well as into birth from the mother. Apart from that, it’s an instinctual need for ultimate flowering or bliss. Men have been conditioned in all history to be some form of predator that often avoids the ‘track’ to follow up to the higher realms of love. Women on the other hand, die missing, but throughout life feeling a yearning heart for a love that they can’t really define. Women continue to have little power today to avoid the ‘cracks’ of love, and easily settle for a marginal semblance of love. When faced with a rare real opportunity of what they would like, they find ways to cancel the opportunity.
Love is flying all around us, but only those with the passion and awareness of discernment have a chance in a life to catch it. Real love is elusive. Let go of love that imprisons your freedoms, and allow it to come up within yourself. Better to have it with yourself than in a ‘cracked love’ that is akin to the changing weather’s storms.
However, the author, Jane Austen said, ‘I do not want people to be very agreeable as it saves me the trouble of liking them a great deal’. Hmmm .. she only lived to be 43. Wonder if that had anything to do with it? That attitude misses love, and she did lead a lonely life.
Would Jesus Text?
October 11, 2014
Fear of communication in the ‘age of communication’ makes for poor communication! In all of history, those who controlled the flow and content of communication by which the masses defined their circumstances and their mindsets, ruled. Hasn’t been that long since ordinary people had little means of communication, or the how’s, individually and beyond their own little community or village. Still, at this point, communication has two individual problems. One is not knowing how, the other is not doing it, especially on a personal level. Technology has thrown a wrench into personal communication advances by having millions do it with computer technology usually in using cryptic pixels that leaves the personal connection akin to ‘robot talk’.
For most of life people remained in their little place of birth only setting out a few miles on foot. Near 100% of the world’s people were unknown, and out of touch with each other. A man teaching the word of God likely could not read or even talk so that others could grasp the message, not to mention that the message didn’t reach further than the size of a small county that the US has thousands of.
With all the means of communication electronically today, a Jesus thoughts would be lost in the soup among thousands of others who have even more to say of value reaching out to millions. Only in recent years have we had an interactive communications web, and yet most of the world’s population is banned at this time from participation. It’s just been a few years since modern man evolved 200,000 years ago that humans have been able to have world interaction ( and, yet countries like China or Russia, and much of the middle east have blocks on communication from outside their countries). Inventions to facilitate interaction are constantly being developed or improved as we chip away at the billions under control and lockdown to ultimately break through so all beings on earth can communicate with each other.
Technological advancements may create a social communication opportunity, but still the personal communication hovers just above the stone age, or so it seems. Not only do political and religion systems put up barriers to truth but the human condition, even in America is such that communication among people who are close, from relatives, co- workers, friends, or lovers is fraught with areas that open conversation is rarely not limited. The majority of the world’s people have never had the experience of totally open communication with one person, and that includes married couples. Know and love thyself first. Disappearing into another into a deep love is where ‘texting will never take you’! Go deep in love and a more spiritual, conscious world opens!
Stalking Isn’t Love
October 9, 2014
Repeatedly watching, following or harassing you within a relationship, or in a broken one is not an example of love. I’m currently witnessing a very attractive, classy professional 50 year old woman being watched, harassed, followed, and verbally abused by an ex boyfriend, middle aged, possessive, Don Juan wannabe. Like millions today who haven’t found out who they really are in their available ‘high consciousness’, he flirts with substance abuse while deeply involved with his delusions as well as ‘friendship’ with inner demons.
Many people stalk themselves while attracting another who does the same. That ‘self stalking’ is a repeated, often endless pattern of continuing to follow their inner faults, and unresolved issues through out a relationship, or serial relationships. You attract what you cling to inside yourself! Examining thyself, and making modifications is to unwrap the real beauty that hides inside you. The world is filled with negativity. All that’s necessary to have lots of it is to carry lots of it inside yourself. You and all were created for a purpose. Once you figure out what that purpose is blissful fortune smiles upon your life. Who you love always needs to be questioned as to why and how much.
Few can love so deep that love doesn’t need to be said anymore and just a breathing part of life, but only when all negative blocks are dissipated. Most are stuck with something they call love because they occasionally feel the emotion, and erroneously think that is all there is. Love is given out to everyone. The tragedy is that few breath in the whole supply to fill their very being with self perpetuating love endlessly. Your real true life companion to make you whole is to be filled with an abundance of love, and not just glimpses of it between depression, anxiety, and every type of other fear and limitation imaginable.
Pay attention to your heart. At times it may hurt or suffer but would you want a heart that didn’t feel, or even one that was excited at all times even when the moment is inappropriate? Love is freedom! Love does not possess! Love communicates. Love wants what the other wants for themselves without hurting anyone. Throw away self stalking, or stalking after someone else’s self and move closer the the lightness of love and happiness. Let the heart dance to the waiting joy within. Love is between two, but is first in you! Be happy and dance into the light of love, for it’s your purpose in this unique time on earth. Show your love!
Your Wife is My Friend
Oct. 2, 2014
Love means freedom. Freedom with love, and all its qualities such as trust, communication, compassion, openness, etc. Control, manipulation, and domination kill freedoms, and of course ‘love’. Love on ‘crutches’ always misses the ‘mark’. Friendship is vital to not only a couple in love, but the freedom to have friendship with others ‘independently’ apart from with other couples.
The old marriage was about a roller coaster of existence. The old marriage canceled most connection with friends both old and new, male and female. The old marriage was a lot about survival as well as survival of the marriage even to the point of enclosing yourself from the ‘we’ that you once pledged in love to one another. ‘You’re the only one for me’ has been compromised by serious doubts as well as the state of the moment in life of the world where social norms of marriage have all but disintegrated. Today’s world makes it socially more acceptable to ‘go it alone’. Still, couples are frequently locked in a ‘love-freedom closeout’ as well as being trapped in a relationship going no where but ‘same ole, same ole’ … at best.
Great couplings are a total submerging into one another creating a ‘third person’ called an us or a we (three) – you, me, and we! Wherever you go, the we is there, and yet the total commitment allows for the freedom of each other. It is that giving of freedom to the other that creates a deeper bonding to treasure each other. Most couples put ‘chains’ on each other, or ‘put their heads in the sand’ about each others time apart from the ‘we’ which isn’t bonded but based on ‘loose assumptions’ that don’t serve a deepening love.
Marriage must never become an obligation like a business arrangement, or be a coupling for fear of being alone to protect what has become a ‘going through the motions’. Compassion in a deep love is automatic. In a love that is dysfunctional it’s an opportunity for being in the heart, and deciding to do your best in rising above problems, or removing yourself while with total empathy, compassion, and respect for the other.
Today’s woman, in particular favors breaking the chains of past millenniums of being subservient to a man. Today’s evolved man wants a woman he loves to have all freedom she desires. As a ‘we or us’, each other’s mind and heart is melted into the other beyond the old necessity to be fearful, untrusting, possessive, jealous, etc. Love needs to be a celebration which naturally happens when two come as one!