Cinderella Finds Mr. Goodbar

Cinderella Finds Mr. Goodbar

 July 15, 2014
Is the world better off with you in it? Walt Disney’s fairy tale girl seeking her Prince Charming instead finds one Mr. GoodBar after another. Mr. GoodBar was any male in the 1970’s famous movie that the ’70’s girl of NYC yearned for in search of excitement, as well as having a ‘Cinderella dream’ of living the American Dream. Hollywood brings illusion out of ignored reality. Nothing is what it seems to be to those in a dream looking for a dream. Always looking for the light but finding the dark side of life.*
Life is filled with teachers be they people or circumstances, many unfortunate, but always an opportunity to add to a positive awareness for future reference. Mr. Goodbar is on the dark side,  while Cinderella is on the light side. Both live in illusions, escaping from reality that brings more meaningful answers, and blessings to life and love. Always be letting your eyes, mind, and heart become alive with the power of discernment. Humans are carriers of hope, wishes, self gratifications, and illusions that evade the wonderments of reality  that hide in the light. Life like a roller coaster is a choice that avoids what consciousness can see.
Love is a ladder. At the lower levels, the experiences are wonderful, sometimes, but short lived. Climbing the ladder with another opening their heart in synchronicity, the view and experience creates it’s own ladder where falling is not a possibility. In the story of Alice in Wonderland, there is a saying something like, ‘once you’ve seen it, it will never leave you’. Once love reaches whatever height, it will forever be where it has risen to. Usually, love growth stops and ‘plateau’s  a great distance from its potential, and to never grow again, however the possibility is there!
Cinderella lives in illusion looking for what will be an illusion while avoiding looking at what will cause her to fall short into the, less than fashionable, Olive Oil in ‘Popeye the Sailor’ fictional cartoon. Mr. Goodbar? He’s suffering from unconscious illusions stimulated by two or more of the 8 deadly sins. Will they awaken and live in the conscious space of ‘rarified air? At best, all but the rare one, will do a series of superficial makeovers avoiding an ‘extreme makeover’ out of ignorance and fear. People usually make friends with their liabilities and bad habits rationalizing endlessly for their justification.
Snow White, Cinderella, Prince Charming, Mr. Money bags are all celluloid fictional movies! Give yourself a few slaps in the morning mirror until you see that the tools to rise to the high space of the conscious realms are there waiting. Real love is a permanent space to fly from there! Real love is real freedom!

Abandoning Love is Easy

Abandoning Love is Easy!

  July 9, 2014
…And often a good idea when the other possesses ‘self abusive love’ within themselves. Life gives everyone access to a supply of love. Because of ‘blocks’ to the supply, the unaware get love mixed with dissonance, or what I call shrapnel, hence their relentless troublesome experiences with love. Love isn’t needy! Love can smoothly let go of the object or recipient of love, but only if you love yourself deeply. Love can always be a friend. What people claim to be ‘love’ is really them as a very conditional friend, or just another body who sadly can shut the door on their ability to let their self love be a friend to themselves. Most who claim they love are NOT worthy of real love unless committed to closing the gap.
Those who really love themselves are far better off letting go of the love with those who struggle between love, self hatred, and all forms of fear of intimacy. People with love difficulties are better off alone, or typically imprisoned with someone else who struggles so at least they have someone to commiserate with (sarcasm). Rarely does this popular type actively focus on clearing up the things that make them more than marginally desirable, especially after a short beginning.
Love convoluted with mixtures of emotions is potentially a teacher, but not always one free of repercussions. Letting go of the other beyond your seeming control can be equivalent to experiencing the death of a loved one. However, life without the variety of emotions including the suffering ones would be an empty life as much as one wants to avoid hurts of suffering. Two people experiencing deep love will only send love to each other avoiding any negatives while leaving a completion and love always flowing.
There is a simple method to center yourself, or come back to sanity, and to put ‘positivity’ to your past.  Be a simple witness of your thought processes.
Sit silently, witnessing the thoughts, passing before you. Do not interfer, even judging. The moment you judge you have lost the pure witness. The moment you say “this is good, this is bad,” you have already jumped onto the thought process. Be patient and a gap will come. The gap will be between the witness and the mind. Once the gap is there, you are in for a great surprise, that you are not the mind, that you are the witness, a watcher.
When you go deeper and deeper in witnessing, thoughts start disappearing. ‘You are’, but the mind is utterly empty. This is the moment when you become centered or sane, and in the moment. ‘In the moment’ is to be in the present, and life becomes a present. Maybe that’s why it’s called the present. As the mind clears, the past is converted into a situation to learn from while becoming a present, and transitions into the present. Clinging and being forever attached to bad memories comes with an unsettled, unclear mind. Life opens love’s doors as a present when you are in the present!



 You know that I care what happens to you,And I know<br />
 that you care for me.So I don&#8217;t feel alone,Or the weight of the stone,Now that I&#8217;ve found somewhere safeTo bury my bone.And any fool knows a dog needs a home,A shelter from pigs on the wing&#8230;..
 July 14, 2014
Illusionitis is a preoccupation with an imagination and missing the reality of what really is. Becoming attached to the wonderments, and use of modern technology has become a distraction from the use of ones natural proclivities of seeing who we really can be and are individually and collectively. In other words, technological developments, regardless of there usefulness, have dumbed down inner sensitivities. We have become a world of ‘window shoppers’ or abusers of the precious inherent qualities of ourselves leaving them ‘undeveloped’ or in a gap between their potential, and where they are at. Some of those qualities stunted are, compassion, sensitivities, awareness, genuineness, empathy, insights, love, and on and on.
People in many undeveloped parts of the earth today are really clones of who came to live like their ancestors of the, for example, 15th century. In the developed countries sadly, there is little difference except for the ‘fruits of technology’ having been inserted. Take all benefits of technology away, and humans in the more developed world are virtually the same as those of  centuries or thousands of years ago! Do people really live today, or just exist in a technological, ‘Hollywood’ world that creates a dream where most seek enjoyment in while ignoring their inner ‘technology’ that can rise ones consciousness?
Have you woken from the dream or in just survival, accumulation, and self absorption with modern ‘toys’ that become more and more sophisticated? Is your world one of entertainment while giving little attention to inner-attainment?
Most fill their ‘shopping carts’ with the rotting, unresolved traumas of yesteryear unable to access a clear loving positivity within. Recent studies have shown that even psychopaths with expert guidance can reach incredible degrees of ‘normalcy’ if they are cooperative. Each and everyone can walk out of the past dilemmas into a world of the ‘now’, and resulting in a more positive future. Frequently I connect with people who I’ve known for sometimes decades who continue with the same old problems filled with excuses why. Always, they allude to their childhood and bad memories that influence their behavior.
Like the ‘rebooted’ psychopath, who once was called the ‘most’ incurable, they can start with one step at a time. Always, first there must be the intent. Then ‘be’ what you aspire to while seeing what that is, then with an unrelenting focus do what’s necessary including a commitment to whatever forms of meditation work best for you. This is the life right now here that billions who came before you would have loved the opportunity to live, and learned to love themselves while spreading the blessing. Now that illusion is reality right now, right here! It’s all up to you! Why die at the best time in history without giving it a shot!!



 July 12, 2014
Las Vegas is the world capital of the ‘numbers game’. The ‘house’ has to have the ‘fix’ in, or lose everything. Survival is a ‘numbers game’! You can slip that out the back, and pay no attention, but every thing in your life has a number. Age, IQ, weight, quality of the collective rating of dining experience at a particular restaurant, chances of this or that, even your ‘love resume’, or batting average of demonstrated ability to love another. Accepting that, making the best of every situation is what to focus on. Being an accountant of everything in life at the front of your mind is to miss life’s beauty’s.
However, to totally ignore your relationship to a potentially to anything is to miss the opportunity to use the gifts of common sense and discernment available to you. Love is the greatest gift of life. To understand the financial if it’s a main focus in your life is to understand ‘economics’ in every aspect that benefits your financial portfolio. If love is your top concern and value, you  need to know every aspect of how you can increase your potential to love yourself  and another to the maximum.
Selling love short and with little focus on consciousness that translates into proven outcomes in your life of love is to just take the route of the masses in ‘what ever will be, will be’. Love quality attained can be measured on a mathematical scale. Many have come to adulthood with a ‘bumpy love childhood’ making it likely that it will continue unless you examine the past, and identify what it was that created the various forms of fear and obstacles to love now and in the future.
Imagine having the experience of mutual love with another as being as much as you can imagine. Then decide how far you are from that space, in other words, there is a ‘gap’. As an example, I asked a couple of my siblings what number from 1 to 10 (10 being the highest) they would rate the love in their total childhood. After some thought, they settled on a ‘6’, which is above average, but a gap from a 10, or as much love as they could imagine. My experience was a ’10’, and there are reasons, some of which might be a mystery. There are ways to alleviate the problems of the past into the healthier now.
Look at where you have been as objectively as possible. Give it a number rating. Certainly there are things in every life that everyone can rate a ’10’ even if love in the past doesn’t. I’ve developed a system based on an evaluation on one’s past love experiences that can be quantified. Rarely is it possible to move beyond ‘love’s number’ that has followed you, without a deep self examination followed by focused positive action usually involving deep meditation and a letting go of attachments to past’s impediments. Love doesn’t accept excuses! Why keep love as a gamble when there’s a way to win?

Nincompoops of Love

Nincompoops of Love
 July 4, 2014
Ego necessitates a ‘hammering on the rock’ of the stubborn ‘victim’ who has been known to say ‘it’s not them’, but who shatters the meaning of love. Chances are that debilitating ‘ego’ is you, and likely everyone you know! Love that’s not living in the highest 95% of the time needs a ‘knock, knock’ on your stubborn ego full of excuses starting with ‘childhood shortcomings of lack of love’. Don’t be offended by being a nincompoop, we all are in some way!

The energies of evolvement bombarding the planet are real, and influencing tremendous change upon our world and within each of us. You have a choice to not make a choice, choose to resist and persist in the old ways of being, or you can let go and ride the train of evolvement to a higher consciousness. The nincompoop route is to make the choice for avoiding any search or rebooting for the ‘diamond gift of life’ that is only given in its best cut to those who’ve cleared all of the obstacles. The ‘ego’ is in charge of the coverup with denials, fears, and well just too lazy to do anything other than think, at best, that life is pretty much only what you experience.

Love is pftt? Men, in particular, by thought, action, and unwillingness to raise the bar on love as being real, or just accepting it as over rated are rarely at a loss for finding male agreement for their negative outlook. Women may be the ‘keepers of love’, and yet usually fall short of demonstrating it, often from it’s lack as a child. However, still the male vulnerable energy that has no barriers to showing and sharing it, is the key to unlocking the door to the open female to hit the space for harmonious love that forever changes the chemistry of love to open the gates of unlimited, open energy.

Each partner is the student as well as the guru of love and its manifestation. Falling off the track of ‘growing love’ usually happens early on as one, or both revert to their prior bad habits that became weeds in a ‘garden of love’ which depends on agreeable sensitivity, and communication with each other. Neglect of always tuning in to your higher self, and the others, is to let the weeds or obstacles to take root frequently shutting out the light of hope for reaching the rarified consciousness of the blessings and joys of godliness. Love does not like being ignored and will cause infinite disappointments and irritants. Love is like a personal God that gives what it receives. Love treated as God is a spiritual boomerang that is forever enduring.

8th Deadly Sin

8th Deadly Sin (not this one)
July 3, 2014
None seems to know why the 8th sin wasn’t mentioned, maybe seven was regarded as a better number? The seven enemies of the soul are envy, wrath, lust, greed, gluttony, sloth and pride. Perhaps the German Theologian and anti Nazi says it in the following statement which every American needs to be mindful of:

“In Germany they first came for the communists, and I didn’t speak up because I wasn’t a communist. Then they came for the Jews, and I didn’t speak up because I wasn’t a Jew. Then they came for the trade unionists, and I didn’t speak up because I wasn’t a trade unionist. Then they came for the Catholics, and I didn’t speak up because I was a Protestant. Then the came for me – and by that time, no one was left to speak up.’’

The 8th deadly sin is called ‘Acedia’ (sometimes referred to as Despond). The term has often been forgotten over the centuries, but is utterly relevant in today’s world. Perhaps it wasn’t used because it is so difficult to define. Words used in defining it are common conditions today that the masses need to awaken from to save life on earth. It has been called the ‘monks demon’ due in part to their gazing into the empty boredom of their existence. It’s being lost in a masquerade. Are you lost in crimes to yourself before they happen?

Boredom, apathy, depression, escapism, despair, commitment phobia are just a few words to describe this demon that results in people more or less ‘rowing in place’ in their lives where love seems to be regarded as a mystery, or a door to hurt, rejection, and all forms of fears. At its Greek root, the word acedia means the absence of care. Acedia becomes a spiritual morphine when challenges seem to overcome one. An afflicted withdraws into their ‘turtle like shell’ to avoid discomfort, pain, and fears.  Having acedia is not all of these characteristics but one or more.

Are you a prisoner of the ‘looping negative’ mind or the fearful, dulled, protected heart? Like poison in a gourmet dish, it doesn’t matter how much, you wouldn’t want to eat it. Why would you want to ‘consume’ negatives that follow you night and day, year after year when everyone is busy with their own issues or blessing to be of help? Change your breathing several times a day breathing out the old, and  deep breathing in the new never before energy.  Why be a masquerade to life and love waiting for your harmonizing with it?


Love Transfer

Love Transfer  

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June 21, 2014
You are not, and have not been in love with anyone! Ask yourself, are you in ‘full love inside, and then with someone else who is likewise?  It’s a figure of speech to say you’re ‘in love with whomever’, and it just makes it easier to say to someone. However, it’s really an activation of the love within you, and projected out to someone else who may or not be displaying an ‘in love with you’ persona. Chances are extremely likely that you are not day in and day out, in a state of ‘loving within’ except for moments of that mixed in with all kinds of self doubts. 

Many experience being in love with someone without being in a state of love within themselves apart from anyone else. When in the mixed love/fear state with another in that same state, it’s always up and down conditional. Love from you to another that isn’t received on the depth that you give, especially when they are not totally committed to a full intimacy, is cause for using common sense and self preservation. That is a time to let go of the ‘partial love receiver’ and chose to just experience the love you have for yourself.

Letting go of someone that you love because they are not committing to returning the love wanted is often wise. Cutting off the ‘exclusive’ connection, and being open to moving on is just better for your health. The love you have for the other, if it’s real, will always show up within you, even as the years go by.

My experience of that occurred a few years ago when I and another person were seemingly very much in love. As a few months went by, it became apparent that the one I was in love seemingly equal with her changed, as she reverted to before meeting me when she didn’t love herself but marginally. Seeing that changing the lack of self love was futile, we agreed to live apart. Staying in my own ‘self love’ life was very nice for me. As the weeks wore on, I kept an open mind to her ‘loving herself more’. My love was very open. In a few short months someone else showed up who had full love of herself. My love transferred in total while meeting hers the same. Never did or have I to this day not felt the love I had for the first one as well as the 2nd.  I’m still in touch with both having the memory of very different experiences, but the love was really in both cases the love I felt inside apart from either. One could totally receive and give unconditionally, the other not. When you love yourself, it’s up to the other to do the same or not. Deep love regardless is within you.

Strange as it is, very few are open to give and receive a deep unconditional love. You can experience it with many at the same time, but circumstances dictate the common sense manifestation of the connection. Love is within you. Experience all of it, and connect with whomever feels the same appropriate to the time and place. Love is a miracle. You’re the miracle maker!

Mirror of Love

Mirror of Love
 July 1, 2014
Who you partner with is a mirror of who you are at the moment. Some go through different stages of mind and heart set. There may be differences naturally between you and a partner but where your energy and mind is when you connect is meeting theirs. Poor choice or good one, it’s an experience that if you are open and paying attention will be a teaching for both that may well either alter your next choice of partner, or in the case of remaining with the same one, will either go in another direction causing conflict, or you will blend together in harmony.

Love that flows steady and deep reflects as a mirror where you are at with your journey capturing the love within you. Unconditional, deep love reflect itself, but is a mirror to others who likely have love that is filled with clouds, thunder and lightening, earthquakes, and all fears that block the clear energy of love that’s unchained from limits.

On a clear day, you can see forever! When the heart and mind are clear you become a vessel for love as deep as the deepest ocean. Unlimited love is within everyone, but those few who walk in it are both blessed, and yet destined to encounter those with ‘mixed love’ carrying troubled fears that challenge them to a state of uncomfortableness that wants to always place the reflection on those who are the clear mirrors. Real love always is its own energy source by giving to another and others for the sake of giving with no expectation.

Love occurs with timelessness and mindlessness when the ego leaves. Love has to be learnt. Each comes into life with different amounts of love from before birth and afterwards. Few things just suddenly appear without learning them. You are born with a capacity for love along with a little ‘starter love’. Love is harmony with yourself, with nature, and with another.

Like a leaf in summer falling off a tree, you could see that love is gone.
Love, she was once our pretty little girl.
But we gave her hate & pain for bread.
We tore her apart with the claws of our conflicts & strife’s.
With our unforgiveness & pride, away we drove her into the wild.
Now the sun has gone down on our love.
The world is so cold without you love.
Daily she sat crying at our harsh words.
Now look she’s no more. © Francis Lyke

One broken mirror looking into another broken mirror sees both distorted reflections. One broken mirror looking into one ‘not’ broken, sees a broken mirror. The clear mirror must deal with the reflection of the broken one, and to a point can, while seeing beyond the mirrors cracks with hope.  In any case, the lower or broken always rules, unless they commit to rising up into a clear mirror. Commit to clearing bad habits, fears, and all obstructions from the past, and love will grow.

Short Term Love

Short Term Love
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 many faces do you see?
 June 29, 2014
Love in its deepest sense is unconditional, and doesn’t need anyone to ‘keep it running’. Life is NOTHING except the opportunity to love into its highest peaks. Chances are you’ve missed it in all previous lifetimes, except for conditional love that comes and goes like the weather in northern climates. Life gives a subsistence of love even for those who avoid it all their lives. A subsistence of love is like like the weather in London – gloomy most of the time, but here and there the sun shines. With that is how most all finish their lives, usually missing.

Love can be like a ‘bolt of lightening’ even coming at the last moments of breathing, if you let go of all the blockages of the mind. Some call it ‘enlightenment’. I refer to it as ‘inner-lightenment’. Being love is the highest being. Be loving toward yourself in all ways. Love is independent of another, but is very rarely able to evolve with no one receiving or giving of love. Deep, unconditional love becomes part of your soul that gives and receives to life and others to the degree that they are receptive. It’s beyond thinking.

If you deeply love yourself, stay away from those who don’t, or at least those with less than a total focus on it. Since that is not always possible, make the connection short and positive. Better to be alone than to carrying someone else’s unresolved issues in your life. Those ‘stuck’ on problems need to be managed to protect your precious time. Those ‘stuck on inner problems’, who aren’t evolving are best avoided with but very brief contact while sending positive energy to them.

Love is as strong as death. Love with hate or anger is impossible for real love to happen. Drop the masks and love will reach out. There can be no wall between two people for love to grow. Hate cannot transfer into love. Hate needs awareness to dissolve it for love’s seed to grow. Love comes only by loving. Without love, you are just a body. Love is the key to the divine. Love has no time, or possessiveness. Love is fueled by awareness and freedom. Real freedom comes only in love. Love most where it’s received and given!

Loitering Through Life

Loitering Thru Life

June 27, 2014

Most people are loitering on earth. In particular, those who are beyond the ‘survival mode’, and have risen materially and/or educationally to heights above the average person (who likely is just ‘existing’ also, but slightly more ‘excusable’). Loitering, in the sense most used, is hanging out with no purpose, and possibly panhandling (which if one needs to for survival, has merit). Until you are, as the evangelist Rick Warren says, ‘purpose driven’, you are existing as a form of loitering on an earth waking up from millions of years of more primitive life and conditions with endless strife.

If you are successful, raising a family, enjoying your hobbies, believing in god, going or not to church, struggling with continuing problems, and just being what you think is a ‘good person’, it’s likely just ‘loitering’, or hanging out wondering what to do next. Sound tough? Well, look buster, it took millions of years of your ancestors to get you to this point of ‘freedoms’, and you seem to think it means freedom to buy things, and just do what you gotta do day by day. Well, if there is a trap door to a hell, you’re standing on it!

Sin is not paying attention, and not what you carry around in your skull thinking it to be something you do that the man in the sky is taking notes on that send you step by step closer to eternal hell. Who says there is any ‘eternal’ where you’re going, or who says it’s not just a ‘blip in time’. Anything you do, and have believed is covered with stale cherry sauce anyway. Time to pull up your pants, look around, stop being one running on fumes, and commit by action to step in only a positive direction to evolving to someone if, there is or were a god, that ‘it’ would see itself as a mirror image in you!

Build some castles in the sky of your being! You’re not alone in this world of obstacles, mostly from other sheeple who are shearing other sheeple for their own pride and covert pleasures. Life is a trip! Why trip through it except for getting up, and making your ride better. Instead of just entertainment, try inner-attainment! The life you save starts with yours. Nothing you can’t handle. The ‘old world’ is still clinging on with those who you allow to control and manipulate you. Be not a ‘tragic soul’, but say ‘out out spot’ of the dead past as Shakespeare said in Lady Macbeth. It’s going to take a miracle to wake up, see, and move upward and forward into the ‘heaven of yourself’. Plan for a miracle! Just do it! No more loitering! Be the ‘post loitering’ soul that helps to awaken the light in others!