October 3, 2021
Are you the victim or the perpetrator of someone who
carelessly finds fault in another’s talk? Selective hearing, selective interpretation, selective response relation that leaves the listener on the edge of having to ‘let it go’, or at worst feeling ‘mind abused’ is not communication. There is no romance and compassion in cryptic initiating of verbiage. Spewing forth and initiating words that you don’t take responsibility for asking what the others feeling are about what you say, is selfish and rude.Your talk that doesn’t feel good to another is because they’d rather dialog than argue or having the narrative forced on them – ‘is censorship’ or communication molesting or a form of pummeling ‘gaslighting’!
The best talk is with love and not stored, perhaps unconscious revenge from the past. Many are like walking on egg shells to have a communication-dialog with due to ‘no-no words and thoughts that they aren’t able to handle smoothly’. It becomes selfish, erratic conversation for the open communicator. Not only does this happen personally, but more and more because of sources of information that are either ‘mainstream’ vs. authentic independent researchers who are never invited to
speak on mainstream sources.
Bottlenecks for communication are caused by
unconscious censorship perhaps emanating
from yesteryears bad memories. Being a vice
president of sales for corporations in NY, it was
an unspoken word to let the prospect talk
without arguing with them no matter how
discourteous they were. Some of those rules,
as hard as they are in a personal conversation
with someone, are best even if it requires walking away without any rancor. The most annoying habit, according to surveys that spouses have between the is ‘Selective Hearing’. We’ve all done it, but it is poor
etiquette and manners that each controls. We have one mouth and two ears. With that, hearing is more powerful than speaking. Speaking makes noise that can be inappropriate.
Each one of us is a walking radiator. Mostly we radiate thoughts and attitudes. From deep within we radiate our state of being, and the essential, original and eternal state of every being is peaceful and loving. But we block and distort this energy with our attachments. Attachments turn love into fear, peace into anger and then distort our attitudes and actions towards others. This is neither relaxing for ourselves, nor for those around us. Which is why sensitive detachment is the secret to living lightly and lovingly.
Always examine your habits for the possibility that they may be a block to inner evolvement.
People don’t love themselves enough because they are unhappy with what they see within themselves, and being reflected in daily living. Let love flow from the ears and the mouth by hearing and speaking
with an open heart. The most secret and best friend you’ll ever have is ‘you’. Fall in love with you, or better said ‘rise in love’ from within.
