You may be free to think what you want, but how free are you to communicate it with another without limitations? It’s not uncommon for most to not even be able to think and verbalize or express what they have in their mind and feelings. The most important expressions are on human behaviors including your own with a healthy, unlimited openness. It’s more likely than not that you have aspects of thought or feelings that you are not even aware of in your own experience. Openness flowing freely comes with a deepening self understanding and love.
Fear of communicating is part of all societies as well as personal connections. Heard a story about a chef in South Africa who said that no blacks and whites could have the same privileges in restaurants. She said that even in the mid 1990’s, if blacks were lucky enough to eat at most restaurants, after they paid they wouldn’t get their money change, but instead were paid back the money change in ‘bubble gum’! Sad thing if you were black, you feared to say anything for fear of being ostracized in uncomfortable ways.
With most people, I walk on ‘egg shells’ in conversation as it’s easy to see what would trigger them into a defensive or negative mode. It’s healthy to see that words are just words and not to be received as ‘verbal bullets’ either giving power to those who seek that control, or just censoring a well meaning conversationalist. It’s a good idea to keep a good sense of humor ready, just in case an attempted communication hits a snag and ruffles someones feathers. As most are easily upset with open minded communication, it’s incumbent upon the more open to protect the healthy flow of verbal expression by learning the skills of sensitivity of where to go or not go with words. However, it’s healthy for all people to find their center and relax in a complete openness.
Had a friend at one time whose whole relentless ‘schtick’ was to push people’s trigger with about as much sensitivity as an elephant in a china shop. His purpose was, frankly aggravating to everyone who had contact with him as he had no sense of humor or suave-faires with his failure to use common sense, much like Peter Sellers as the bumbling Inspector Clouseau in the film, Pink Panther.
It pays poorly to fall into negativity even when the other does. Find ways that become automatic to turn conversations into the positive as quickly as possible. Ask yourself if there is any reason to be negative. Going deep into the question, negativity will disappear. Say ‘yes’ with your whole being! Keep your abilities to converse always flowing and open to changing to adapt to those who require it, and conversely focus on being receptive positively to all comments with minimal or no judging. BE open to the intimacy of expressions of words and feelings.
