June 23, 2022
Dialog? What’s that? How about using the art of mutual aligning in loving conversation? Self hatred shows up in many ways. One of them is ‘in denial’ of anything being representative of ‘self hatred’. The whole world culture, especially in the West is to win by verbal debate or its form called argument. Any thing to both hold the ‘offensive and defensive’ to win the ‘point of view’. Winning is the unconscious or conscious goal. Winning in any verbal, physical, emotional or spiritual interaction is no longer a goal when the elements of love are present as in compassion, empathy, or just mutually seeking a compatible agreement.
Mind is a beautiful servant, but a lousy master. Mind wants to ‘lord over’ or mollycoddle the other with no regard for seeking a ‘compatibility route’ to an outcome/answer. Arguments of winning are best left on the fields of sport interactions. Tai Chi is an ancient martial art from the East involving use of the breath and fluid movements of the physical as a form of meditation. Interaction with another likewise is a dance in harmony with the spirit of love. Dialog, whether in physical or mental form, is to move in a relaxing harmony, an ‘art of seduction’, and – a kind of Tai Chi.
A ‘higher love’ involves the ‘art of communication’ which leaves any debate or argument out of the equation. As a beginning corporate salesman in NY’s Manhattan, it was important to use the art of listening to hear what the other thinks, then finding advantages and benefits for the them, then get agreement that both are moving in the best direction for acceptance. Always, it’s a good idea in the ordinary world of thoughts to determine if the other is a prospect for what you have to verbalize, or if not open, can you find an opening to further the exchange in agreement. If they are not open, perhaps a later time.
Tainted conversation is often one way non conversation that is really a hidden argument that has no real winner especially the one who most closes the door of openness, otherwise known as dialog or loving interchange. A favorite mystic of mine is J. Krishnamurti from India who I was in the company of when he at 88 years old sat on a chair while sitting on his hands before hundreds in NY’s famed Carnegie Hall to give profound simple thoughts. He was a marvelous purveyor of the art of dialog. One of his statements was, ‘’The ability to OBSERVE without evaluating is the highest form of intelligence.’’ Life isn’t a part time hobby, but a full time expression of a lover of life! Be here now!
Arhata~
