April 24, 2022 
Marriage and/or a love partnership is the peak of spiritual evolvement opportunity. Love with a partner is a path to nirvana like no other! Love of self alone though is far more likely to reach the heights of spiritual consciousness than all but a rare few in a love partnership. All experiences of course are a matter of difficult degree to measure. When one reaches a point within where you can’t imagine more, arrival to a rare state of love consciousness has been entered.
What happens in all but a rare few of love’s unions? Censorship! Censorship of letting go to full spiritual-emotional intimacy. Where or when does the censorship begin? Always in the moment, but that moment is usually bringing up the tapes of the past, even the generations DNA that came before, as less of an influence than it may be. Bottom line, you are the movie producer of your own life. You write it, direct it, perform in it, and strangely you are the #1 audience!
Censorship is often very ugly and certainly among personal connections, is like walking on pins and needles to be careful not to say anything that creates a silent judgment or a reaction that encourages lying through omission or thinking carefully how to say something to not offend the paranoia of the other caused by certain words. I have a friend who’s a known activist for animal rights, and anyone eating what he calls ‘flesh’ is open game for his verbal abuse. Try mentioning that you had a hamburger for lunch and surely a reaction will be evoked with rancor in his voice. Couples will stay together for life, each adjusted to keeping thoughts and information to themselves, even if having cheated or any number of other things.
Growth in your inner consciousness is nearly impossible with communication roadblocks put up for others seeking communication with you. Love is often relegated to a word exchange problem, and occasional feelings of emotion. In a coupling where both have inner management problems the only likely result is continuing up and downs of one degree or another. Love is mostly in the dark. The exception to this common arrangement of having fallen in love is best to have an agreement to dedicate harmonious communication with each other with sincerity and heartfelt energy in the direction of detaching from what are ‘love’s blocks’. With one who` has smoothed out ‘blocks of negativity’ and one who hasn’t, the similar arrangement is necessary, and can work into a rare couple who personifies the ideal of love expression becoming one of the best examples for others to unchain their own limitations. Always use meditation, and the best one is loving each other.
Arhata~
