March 7, 2022
There are many ‘deal breakers’ for a real love that are beyond time, situation or place. Just as those who use a pesticide to save their crops, ultimately it is harmful to those thinking the food was grown with love and ‘best choices’ of pest control. NO ONE needs to accept any ‘sin of love’ as a pestilence to initially desired ‘continuation’ of beginning love. Love does not have to be a ‘boxing match’ otherwise known as ‘arguing’.
Just because your garden has weeds, and you use pesticides, doesn’t mean you can’t stop the poor gardening. Loving someone is often gardening of stopping weeds growth, and weeds that have endured pesticides in addition to the ‘love flowers or vegetables’ from love’s toils’. Love that has to do battle is a ‘battle love’ or like trying to read a book with a flashlight that is losing its power. Arguing is best left out of your life altogether, other than the possibility of a conscious argument with someone who we have little emotional connection with, if even that?
It’s been said, ‘opposites attract’. One thing left out? Negative opposites fertilize arguments and dissensions endlessly. Positive opposites can work beautifully with a flow of dialog instead of arguing. Why argue with yourself? If you do, you will argue with who you claim to love. Is it possible to have only a quality of love and dialog. Of course. It’s my experience, and when there is an argument initiated, and you’re a dialoguer, do your best to not engage. If you do, it’s an argument that really is the other arguing with themselves, but they see it as both arguing, when in fact the other may be defending themselves which is often futile, instead it’s prudent to use the best options of skillfully minimizing any engaging means to put out the fire of argument.
The art of loving and avoiding arguments, first begins with ‘loving yourself’. Self love is loving yourself such that you would want to be with another who possessed your inner qualities. Chances are loving the other who has a habit of initiating arguments is really saying, ‘I need your help in loving myself so I can love you with all my heart instead of ‘inconsistent love’. A Sin is to ignore or not pay attention where often that ‘sin’ has negative consequences. If you can’t talk freely without listeners quick to argue rather than relaxing and asking polite questions on your viewpoint, you’re in a fog of anything but love.
