Category: Spiritual Relationships

Oct. 29, 2021
…Jack, make a new plan Fran, you don’t need to be coy, Joy. We don’t need to discuss much.

Problem is all is all in your mind and you listening to the wrong voices in your head. See the light and forget the fight. Falling in love with the one who’s going to break your heart is listening to the heart too much ignoring commons sense. Nothing is what it seems. Instead listen to your heart and awareness with discernment before it’s too late. There are silent voices that want to be felt and heard that could be calling for you, and they just may be cloaked in common sense.

Everybody hurts sometimes with the memories you’ve been through. Somehow, sometime you have to let go of the hurtful attachments and know that the sun shines bright somewhere that will help you let go. We’ll always have loves memories, and they will bring back the love that was at it’s best. Feeling good and even better is seeing the sunshine that’s always there and ready to give the shadow of your memories, and a new light on the way of today and tomorrow. Knowing love will always be there, and can be built upon especially from your decision to find the enlightenment within.

Always, you are a one person show even without the deep connection with another one with that ‘same show’. Always deepen your self-awareness, and with kindred spirits. By changing yourself, you contribute to changing the world and to see who you really are. The further we drifts from truth the more another will hate you for speaking it.

The imbalanced, shadow side of acceptance is passivity, laziness, and avoidance. It is not mindful growth. If we see a window of opportunity and fail to jump through it, no one benefits. Real change is at the heart of what it means to be human. With each change we learn and we recreate ourselves. We are able to see in a way that was not previously possible. We can act and achieve in a way that we could not before. With each change the world is different, our relationships are transformed.

Life is a mirror of your choices, be they of perception that is the accumulation of your experiences and how we consciously or unconsciously made the part of the you that you and others see from their experiences of perception. To be free and freer, let go of the false me that has the accumulated impediments of yesteryear. Slip out of the past, and plan for the unseen miracle of the moment that will light the moments ahead. Make every move you make be with a smile.
Arhata~

October 3, 2021
Are you the victim or the perpetrator of someone who
carelessly finds fault in another’s talk? Selective hearing, selective interpretation, selective response relation that leaves the listener on the edge of having to ‘let it go’, or at worst feeling ‘mind abused’ is not communication. There is no romance and compassion in cryptic initiating of verbiage. Spewing forth and initiating words that you don’t take responsibility for asking what the others feeling are about what you say, is selfish and rude.Your talk that doesn’t feel good to another is because they’d rather dialog than argue or having the narrative forced on them – ‘is censorship’ or communication molesting or a form of pummeling ‘gaslighting’!
The best talk is with love and not stored, perhaps unconscious revenge from the past. Many are like walking on egg shells to have a communication-dialog with due to ‘no-no words and thoughts that they aren’t able to handle smoothly’. It becomes selfish, erratic conversation for the open communicator. Not only does this happen personally, but more and more because of sources of information that are either ‘mainstream’ vs. authentic independent researchers who are never invited to
speak on mainstream sources.
Bottlenecks for communication are caused by
unconscious censorship perhaps emanating
from yesteryears bad memories. Being a vice
president of sales for corporations in NY, it was
an unspoken word to let the prospect talk
without arguing with them no matter how
discourteous they were. Some of those rules,
as hard as they are in a personal conversation
with someone, are best even if it requires walking away without any rancor. The most annoying habit, according to surveys that spouses have between the is ‘Selective Hearing’. We’ve all done it, but it is poor
etiquette and manners that each controls. We have one mouth and two ears. With that, hearing is more powerful than speaking. Speaking makes noise that can be inappropriate.
Each one of us is a walking radiator. Mostly we radiate thoughts and attitudes. From deep within we radiate our state of being, and the essential, original and eternal state of every being is peaceful and loving. But we block and distort this energy with our attachments. Attachments turn love into fear, peace into anger and then distort our attitudes and actions towards others. This is neither relaxing for ourselves, nor for those around us. Which is why sensitive detachment is the secret to living lightly and lovingly.
Always examine your habits for the possibility that they may be a block to inner evolvement.
People don’t love themselves enough because they are unhappy with what they see within themselves, and being reflected in daily living. Let love flow from the ears and the mouth by hearing and speaking
with an open heart. The most secret and best friend you’ll ever have is ‘you’. Fall in love with you, or better said ‘rise in love’ from within.

September 11, 2021
What a wonderful world it is to evolve into the superconscious being that awaits our decisions to open up to the blessings given at this present time. The pinnacle of educated human kind is here now. Seems like a Heaven of Earth should be here! Unfortunately, most are homeless inside that skin that carries negative issue between the ears that trickles down to the heart that reflects the mind.

This is the greatest window of opportunity. While working on Wall St., the term ‘window of opportunity’ was the best and very short time to pull out of the market, or jump in with the best percentages of making a killing. Life in infinite ways has windows of opportunity. In sports, young adulthood is a brief window of opportunity to be ready to enter the pros. God was merciful to give us all a lifetime for the window of opportunity to ‘spiritually evolve’ at any age, however the window slowly shuts down to a ‘crack opening’. Often, in early adulthood, most have settled on being who they think they are, bad habits and all. Time is running short for clearing the messes you may have made.

The path of feeling is the ultimate feeling of Nirvana, but for desires of the material, you stop the deep feeling as well as stopping the flow of space-time for you. And when you adopt technology and the material for everything, your feeling closes the window of inner growth opportunities. Ultimately you lose even the past continuous tense, and becoming struck up in a stagnated stalemate. The very flow of feeling in you gets lost completely and, you become the cripple who depends totally on technology and material living.

The very flow of feeling in you gets lost completely and obscured. You become the unsatisfied who depends totally on running in place as the same ole, same ole you, only getting old without seeing the blessings that are here for the rise of your consciousness.

I am reminded of my ‘extended family’ connection growing up with a neighbor family who also had 7 kids in the logging towns of Cosmopolis and Aberdeen, Wa. Seems no one came out of those towns who were on the edge of outer great success, except for a little blond kid who became the lead of the music sensation called ‘Nirvana’ (the other day I googled up his No.1 song that has been viewed and listens to by 1.4 billion internationally!) The window of opportunity for fame opened too wide and fast for Kurt, as it was so wide that he wasn’t ready to take the winds of notoriety without being ready inside. The real heaven or nirvana while here on earth is within. Let the music play now. The journey is long, but the end is always near – better hurry. Seek the simple blessings within, be free, and the heart will be filled with soft music to always remind you of the blessings of Nirvana within.
Arhata~

September 25, 2021
She married him today. At the end of the wedding party, her mother gave her a newly opened bank savings passbook, with $1000 deposited in it. She told her, “My dear daughter, take this passbook. Keep it as a record of your married life. Whenever something happy and memorable happens in your new life, put some money in. Write down what it’s about next to the amount. The more memorable the event is, the more money you can put in. I’ve done the first one for you today. Do the others with your husband. When you look back after many years, you will know how much happiness you’ve both shared.’

She shared this with him after getting home. Both of them thought it was a great idea and couldn’t wait to make the next deposit! This is what the passbook looked like after a while: – 7 Feb: $100, his first birthday celebration after marriage 1 Mar: $300, she gets a salary raise 20 Mar: $200, vacation 15 Apr: $2000, She’s pregnant! 1 Jun: $1000, He gets the big promotion and so on… However, as the years went by, they began fighting and arguing over trivial things. They didn’t talk much.

They regretted that they had married the most nasty person in the world. There was no more love. One day she talked to her Mother. ‘Mom, we can’t stand it anymore. We have decided to divorce. I can’t imagine how I decided to marry this guy!’ Her mother replied, ‘Sure, that’s no big deal. Just do whatever you want, if you really can’t stand it.

But before that, do one thing remember the savings passbook I gave you on your wedding day? Take out all the money and spend it first. You shouldn’t keep any record of such a poor marriage.’ She agreed with her mother. So she went to the bank, and was waiting in the queue to cancel the account. While she was waiting, she took a look at the passbook record. She looked, and looked, and looked. Then the memory of all the previous joyful moments came back to her. Her eyes were filled with tears. She left and went home. When she got home, she handed the passbook to her hubby and asked him to spend the money before getting divorced.

So the next day, he went to the bank, and was waiting in the queue to cancel the account. While he was waiting, he took a look at the passbook record. He looked, and looked, and looked. Then the memory of all the previous joyful moments came back to him. His eyes were filled with tears. He left and went home. He gave the passbook back to her. She found a new deposit of $5000. And a line next to the record: ‘This is the day I realized how much I’ve loved you throughout all these years. How much happiness you’ve brought me.’ They hugged and cried, putting the passbook back into the safe.

*Marriage is not a game, it’s not easy but it can be beautiful.* *You will fight and argue,* *this is normal, because the both of you came from* *different* *background* *different homes and you both were raised by* *different parents, beliefs and moral*. *So you cannot expect that everything you say will be accepted by your spouse without their opinion being tendered first. So before you give up, think back to the good times and to what brought you together in the first place (author unknown).

Why settle for a normal marriage? In a real marriage two become as one and yet keep their individuality. It’s my experience and observation that endless bliss and joy are the blessings for the couple who individually let go of all negatives and stay in their hearts. The ultimate meditation is two people loving themselves together. It is a place beyond love and is eternal.
– Arhata~