Ménage à trois Parents

Giving up a child for adoption hasn’t always been a happy experience, nor has having an abortion always been without apprehensions. Many start as a surprise, unplanned child, and ultimately,  tomorrow’s adults. It’s so very important to give a child the best opportunities available. The ‘surprise’ creates each females final choice on what to do. In some cultures (even within this country) there are judgments of the busy bodies from family to friends or strangers. Often they try to tell the expectant, perplexed mother what to do, sometimes almost as a god who’ll cast a negative spell on the  innocent mother’s psychological state that can reverberate for years to come. The pregnancy affair can be a very ‘hush-hush’ situation.

Every difficulty poses an opportunity, and lessons. Sex and love are here to stay, particularly with humans. Man is created with the ability to further humanity from about 12 to any age with or without willful cooperation of females from  as early as 10, and into their 40’s, and sometimes beyond. What’s ‘not required’ of either is to prevent pregnancies by use of protection, leaving it up to nature to choose pregnancies or not. Sometimes the last thing on either’s mind is to create a new born.

Adoptive options, of recent years, has presented a situation where the birth mother can choose to adopt the child out in a unique way. The expectant mother is able to make a choice to keep her in touch with the child unlike ever before. To begin with, she is presented with a choice of parents who have expressed interest in adopting her child. They may even meet, and exchange any communication they desire. After the adopted child has been turned over to the parents, they can agree to communication over the years with the child and adoptive parents through phone, internet live video (called Skype), and even with agreed upon periodic visits.